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OsaOsa

Ok, so our guess list is 175, the venue holds 150 and can probably squeeze in another 10 or so people but they will not be in the main area with every one else. Even with the already our already high number there are still friends and some family wanting to come and we have cut so many people out already. Not sure how to deal with this. Of all the planning done so far this is the one that seems to cause me the most stress.
Another annoying factor is the number of kids on the list 16 and only two of those are part of the wedding. We decided we will put no kids on the invitation but a lot of these people are coming form out of state and country .....oh my! What to do!!!

PattySmith101

i am not trying to be mean but first of all you shouldnt invite more people than your place holds! if they say 150 that should be how many you invite! if you squeeze 10 more people in everyone will be uncomfortable! the reason they give you that number is because of laws/ fire codes so i doubt they will let you squeeze 10 more people in. And about kids if your guests are coming from out of town and have children with them unless you are providing  care for those kids they should be allowed to come to the wedding. you will find your guest count go down if you say no kids because than the parents of those kids wont be coming either because they have no one to watch their child!

music11

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[QUOTE]Ok, so our guess list is 175, the venue holds 150 and can probably squeeze in another 10 or so people but they will not be in the main area with every one else. Even with the already our already high number there are still friends and some family wanting to come and we have cut so many people out already. Not sure how to deal with this. Of all the planning done so far this is the one that seems to cause me the most stress. <strong>Another annoying factor is the number of kids on the list 16 and only two of those are part of the wedding. We decided we will put no kids on the invitation but a lot of these people are coming form out of state and country ...</strong>..oh my! What to do!!!
Posted by OsaOsa[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Let them find babysitters!!

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shasha5847

We decided not to invite kids.  I'm sure there will be infants there, but other than out nieces and nephew (who are part of the wedding), all the invites are being addressed to Mr. and Mrs. not to Family.  Also, we put on the invitation Adult reception to follow so hopefully that will keep folks from bringing the kids.  Good luck!

mlperkins12

This was really hard for us as well.  The best thing to do is to cut the invitation list down, it's hard but necessary.  Anyone who has planned their own wedding will understand that you just cannot invite everyone.  When you think about how you want your wedding to be remembered, you want it to be a positive experience.  Packed into a reception venue where you can't move after you've potentially made plans to travel to this wedding is not how you want to spend your evening.  Our wedding could have easily been 200 people, but it HAD to be cut to 150, that was all the room we had and that is what we did.

ericaandtom2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to guest list : Let them find babysitters!!
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<div>How are they supposed to find babysitters when they're coming from OUT OF THE COUNTRY?</div><div>
</div><div>OP, I'm sorry you're in this situation but you need to cut down your guest list.  You should definitely not invite more people than your room holds, and there should not be any guests in a separate room to "squeeze them in".  I'd be more offended being put in a separate room than I would be if I wasn't invited at all.  
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achiduck

We are not inviting children with the exception of FI's two little half brothers.

lehc723

If you've got a hotel with a block, you could always hire a babysitter or two to stay at the hotel with the kids during the wedding.

BrittneyRN

I agree that you need to cut your guest list to what the room fits. Why would you even risk that? What if 165 people RSVP yes?

LDubHawksFan

If your place really can't hold more than 150, you cannot send out more invites then that.  It may be due to fire code and then your whole wedding will get shut down for having more, or 10 people could get left at the door.  If you really don't want kids, I agree that you find babysitter options at the hotels that people will be staying at.

minionlover

I agree with everyone in that you can't invite more than you have room for.  You have 2 options regarding kids, invite them or don't invite them and hire a babysitter.  I would normally say its okay to simple not invite them and don't worry about finding babysitters, but they are coming from out country, so I feel like its a different situation.

OsaOsa

The Babysitter idea is great. My Aunt also suggested that. We have talked to two of the couples that have kids and explained that we would prepare not to have kids at the wedding, and mentioned the babysitter option and they said they don't mind doing that. Also we cut a few more people of the list...still a stressful and difficult thing to decide who to cut. but it is better this way...

megangaydos27

I agree with pp, don't invite more than your venue can hold. I have been to weddings where you could tell there were too many people and it was extremely cramped. As far as the kids go, we aren't having kids at our wedding with the exception of those in the wp and a few out of town family members. I would see if you could get a sitter set up on site or at a hotel near by, that might be the best way to go. If you choose to not invite the kids, you run the risk the parents wont come.