Groomswoman :)

chavona0906

So I have been asked by one of my best friends to be a  "groomswoman" haha i'm so excited because my fiancee is the best man and we are both going to be standing up for him.  well my question is....has anyone done this and if so did you do anything in particular for it? i know most guys just throw the bachelor party but as a girl should i try and be a little more involved or just sit back and show up? as a side note i have been becoming better friends with the bride so i guess i could always help her out since i'm also in the midst of planning my own wedding but i just wanted to help out in some way....any ideas? thanks ladies!!

brendaman

I think it depends what they want of you, and you can ask this. For me, whether it's groomswoman or groomsman, you are there to support the groom, that is, help him to plan/do bachelor parties, secure/decorate the transportation/limo, etc. (theknot has oodles of info on this). Does the bride have maid/matron of honor and bridesmaids?  Unless, the bride specifically asks your help/opinion, don't feel that your help/opinion is necessarily needed/welcome.  I don't mean this in a mean way, but if, for example, you offer to go gown shopping with her and that would now make her have a large gown-shopping party, then it's not necessarily helping her to have another opinion. Let them take the lead, but you could ask and not offer (unless, like me, the bride is unsure as to what else needs to be done).BTW, we're not having a Best Man, but a Man of Honor (FI's brother) and Maid of Honor (my sister).  FI does not believe in Best Man title, and I applaud him for it. 

jsong

I was a groomslady at my best friend's wedding and he was a bridesman in mine.  I didn't take part in much of the male stuff but instead did all the wedding party related things with the bride (even though we weren't very close). 

jenmcg

I think it depends on you - FI will be having a groomswoman, she was also groomswoman for another friend.  She was very active in the bachelor party planning for the other guy and I expect her to be equally involved in planning for FI's bachelor party. 

rachelbg

Our groomswoman did not help plan the bachelor party nor did we expect her too.  She lived out of state, but even so I think that is one area that was good to leave just to the guys.  It would have been odd for her to be the only girl there. Other than that, I agree she just was supportive and interested along the way.  We had her wear the same bridesmaids dress but hers was black so she blended with the purple dresses and the black tuxes.  We also got her a bouquet.