July 2012 Weddings

Friend offered to play ceremony music

I have a friend who is a professional freelance cello player in the San Francisco area.  In fact her trio (aka duo, quartet, and quintet) is going to be listed in the Northern California edition of The Knot magazine!  How exciting for her!  Basically she’s good and she knows what she’s doing with weddings.

  

She has offered twice now to play music for my ceremony as a gift.  She is already invited as a guest with her boyfriend.  I was just visiting her in CA this past weekend and we discussed it more.  She’s done a TON of weddings as a solo cellist or in a small group (she contracts out the other musicians).

 

Would you take her up on it?  I wasn’t doing a ton of research on this yet, but a well known local wedding musician (this is Jackson Hole – pricy everything) can charge up to $300/hour.  She said some pre-ceremony music, then a prelude, then recessional music for after, and even suggested I pick from some famous Bach cello suites.  My wedding is outdoors (we discussed shade, weather), small and casual.

 

She would use an instrument from a local music store here rather than fly in with her cello – that would require an extra plane ticket for just the instrument!  She made it sound like it was not a big deal at all.

 

What would be a good compensation for this generous gift?  Pay for one hotel night?  Leave it at it being her gift to us?

 

Here  are the Bach cello solos:

http://www.amazon.com/Bach-Cello-Suites-Nos-1-6/dp/B000002RUY

(only the MAJOR movements, not minor)

Re: Friend offered to play ceremony music

  • I think you should definitely take her up on it!  Did she offer it as her gift to you for your wedding? 
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  • ginadogginadog member
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    When she offered it, I asked what was the going rate for friends, and she replied with, "Oh no, I just want to do this for you guys!"

    I said how I don't want the guests to have any 'jobs' but she said weddings are easy peasy for her and it was no big deal!

    However, she said in the event that she is offered a chance in a lifetime gig the same weekend of my wedding - like something she couldn't pass on - she'd have to take it, which I understood.

    She already has a wedding booked in San Fran during my weekend, but she contracts out all the musicisians herself so even though the trio is named after her she doesn't actually have to be playing in it.  Funny!
  • I would totally take her up on it :)  Just have back up music from your DJ or something in case that chance of a lifetime for her does happen but hopefully it wont!
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  • Take up the offer. We have lots of family and close friends that are doing some things for us for free. For example, my cousin is a cake maker and she's making our cake for free. Consider it their gift to you! If you want to get them something like a gift card somewhere to help thank them you could do that too.
  • I would definitely take her up on it!! She sounds like she knows what she is doing and isn't just trying to be a cost saver for you.  Just make sure you have a back up in case she has a chance of a lifetime that weekend.

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  • Wow, I'd take her up on it! If I had any friends like that, I'd so book them for our wedding. I think it would make the ceremony even more meaningful.

    I'd say you'd need to offer to pay, but you already did. Paying for her hotel sounds like a good idea, and I'd also offer to pay for the cello.
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