Why do weddings bring out the crazy in people??

Nati05

I keep having to deal with people who prefer to avoid me than potentially run into a wedding conversation where they would feel bad to have to tell me they're not really coming. 2 things... #1 at this point, I don't even care if you're not coming (ok not 100% true but whatevs) but I do need you to RSVP ASAP and tell me what your frickin plans are! I have a wedding to plan and numbers to send in! I have wayyy too many OOTGs that are "maybes" and it's incredibly difficult to plan things with such a big difference in what our final guest list can look like. I don't know if I can wait til June 23rd to start calling people! And thing #2, as much as I actually do have wedding brain, that doesn't mean I'll be talking your head off with wedding stuff non stop whenever we chat. You should know that by now because I never do it! Grrr

And my maybeMOH is totally avoiding me. It's really starting to tick me off! I also think she's doing it for the same reason as other people... because she's not coming but she doesn't want to tell me and hurt my feelings. But no one realizes is that's not actually helping...!!! She doesn't have skype and still hasn't created an account so I can never call her (at least not for free lol!) I wrote her a message on FB last weekend just saying hi and asking how she's been and she hasn't answered. Even though she's been updating her page and has recent activity. I wrote her on BBM today saying hi, how are you... she read it (bridetobe!) and didn't answer. And ok I know, technically she's only been avoiding me for a weekend because the messages were recent. But since we haven't spoken in weeks before this, I can't take it anymore! Gah!! I'm ready to call her out already lol.

Breathe. End rant.

Anybody else have any stories of how weddings bring out the crazies in people??

avsfan33

I'd call maybeMOH out on her crap. But I'm bitchy like that lol.

FMIL decided to buy some dress for the wedding. It's 3 greens, 3 blues and black and white. Our wedding colours are green and blue. Now, I know you can't tell people what to wear but wtf? She told FI that she did it because she thought the mother of the groom walked down the aisle with the bride's girls. Wtf? This was NEVER EVER a plan. She's definitely not walking down the aisle. If she was normal, maybe. But she's an attention seeker and is determined to have all eyes on her. She also told FI to keep the dress "hush hush". And, she claimed she was looking for a pink dress but there was none. BS I went on the effing website she got it from and saw a billion pink dresses. This is completely irrational and I have no plans on telling her she can't wear the dress (it's completely hideous btw. I can't find a pic of the dress itself). But I will continue judging her for acting like a crazypants.

Second thing she did was she went and bought FBIL clothes for the wedding. This seems normal right? Except she bought clothes for him to be IN the wedding. He's not in the wedding, she knows he's not in the wedding and she was told less than two weeks ago that he was NOT in the wedding. The clothes she bought also don't match anything. The guys are wearing light coloured cargo shorts and short sleeved black dress shirts. She bought him dark coloured pants and a green and a blue LONG sleeved shirt. It's not even the right colours even if we did have the guys in coloured shirts. FFS. Even if he WAS in the wedding, shouldn't you know, TALK TO THE EFFING BRIDE AND GROOM about the outfits for THEIR wedding party?

This freaking woman will turn me into a bridezilla yet.

BmoreBride311

Sorry Nati! I would probably wait a day or two, but then definitely call the maybeMOH out. It is possible that maybe she read your message while she was in a meeting at work or some place where she couldn't immediately respond, and then it slipped her mind. I have been slightly annoyed with ppl in our wedding party being realllllly slow to respond to me about stuff (like my BMs waiting 3 weeks to tell me that they want their hair done with me, when I said I was making the appointments in the next week... grrr).

@avsfan33 - you lost me on the FBIL part. If your FMIL bought him a completely different outfit, than why do you think it's for him to be in the wedding? Did she say that? If so, how did you even respond? That does sound totally nutso's.

littlemoments324

*hugs* Nati!!! It'll be okay!!!  Just break down & call her...and if she doesn't answer then be like: Hey MOH! Just call to see how you are doing!  I haven't heard from you in a while & you haven't responded to my messages...I'm making some final head counts & I would appreciate it if you could let me know if you're still coming or not.  Please don't drag it out, it's making it harder...Thanks miss you!!

@avsfan...oh girl!!! Your FMIL would drive me bonkers!!!

Nancy00714

Oh Nati!  I'm sorry!  You know Bmore and I know what you're going through!  We can't  just swing by our MIA bridal party member and see what's going on.  Definitely call her and get things straight.  If you chose her to be your MOH then you must be close enough for her to tell you what's going on. 

At one point during my this whole planning/anticipation thing I was feeling really lonely since my bridal party is in the US.  But I just sent out a few e-mails and bbms and that put the focus back on me again, lol.  If you've tried bbming and facebooking then you should call.

And you are so right about people being honest with you about whether they are coming or not (even if your RSVP is a bit off).  If you are travelling from the US to ecuador damn straight they should have their tickets already (more or less).  Same problem with my in-laws.  They say they're coming but don't have tickets yet.  I wish they would just come out and say they weren't coming. 

mekiakoo

People just drive me crazy. Wedding related or not. There are crazy people out there!

avsfan- I can't believe your FMIL, I'd be so annoyed too. My FMIL bought a flower dress for FI's niece back in November without even consulting with me or the niece's mother! The mother and I were so annoyed but we both decided that we'd get a different dress for the niece and maybe just wear the dress FMIL bought at the rehearsal dinner or something.

Nati- I'd give it a few days to see if your MOH comes around. Otherwise see if you can meet up with her and just hang out (nothing wedding related) and see what's going on with her.

bridetobe71412

Nati, I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I remember your other post about your mother and brother and OMG sounds like a nightmare! I think tracking people down and asking for a final answer is totally cool, provided they aren't still before the technical "RSVP" date. When did you say people need to respond? Or are you just trying to get an approximate headcount for budgeting and vendor purposes? I would just err on the side of full attendance.

avsfan33

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[QUOTE]Sorry Nati! I would probably wait a day or two, but then definitely call the maybeMOH out. It is possible that maybe she read your message while she was in a meeting at work or some place where she couldn't immediately respond, and then it slipped her mind. I have been slightly annoyed with ppl in our wedding party being realllllly slow to respond to me about stuff (like my BMs waiting 3 weeks to tell me that they want their hair done with me, when I said I was making the appointments in the next week... grrr). @avsfan33 - you lost me on the FBIL part. If your FMIL bought him a completely different outfit, than why do you think it's for him to be in the wedding? Did she say that? If so, how did you even respond? That does sound totally nutso's.
Posted by BmoreBride311[/QUOTE]

She told FI that she bought it for him to be IN the wedding party. I was at work so I haven't gotten a chance to tell her off. FI completely lost it and asked her wtf? He repeated to her that he's not in the wedding.  When FI told her that's not even remotely close to what they guys are wearing (he refuses to tell her what they actually are wearing now because of things like this) she got all huffy. When she doesn't get what she wants she basically acts like a 2 year old brat.

Nati05

Yeah thanks guys, I just start getting antsy when I don't hear from people in a long time lol. Isn't that the most annoying thing Nancy?? Sorry your in laws are doing this too! : Avs, she sure is a piece of work hahaha GL with that!!!