QOTD 12/14/10

pokepoke27

Did any of you catch the new article What Your Guests are REALLY Thinking? (If not, check it out here: http://wedding.theknot.com/getting-engaged/engaged/articles/dont-make-these-guest-mistakes.aspx?cm_ven=Responsys&cm_cat=KnotNews&cm_ite=December%2014,%202010)

What did you think? Are there any points that you strongly agree/disagree with?

I personally think it's a dumb article, for the most part. The points that they make that aren't absolutely ridiculous are just obvious (such as not having a 4 hour gap between ceremony and reception). I really disagree with the overall tone making it seem like guests are "giving up" a free day to attend your wedding - as if it is something strenuous! I don't know about you, but I actually look forward to going to weddings. It also references a problem with the seating chart - seating guests next to speakers or in a cramped corner - which actually touches on an issue that seems to be quite controversial on these forums. But the thing that bugs me the most is the one about no plus ones. Sorry, but if you want the good food, good entertainment, free booze, and space to move around, you just can't let everyone bring some random guest. Unless you have either a very large budget or very small guest list. People should be able to understand that, and if going to weddings without a date is really that terrible, then just send your congratulations and your regrets and be done with it!! 

Sorry this one is so long, that article just really bugged me lol. 

My_Matt

If you are going to invite someone to a wedding, I feel that a "plus one" should be part of the deal. Unless I was friends with a lot of the other people attending, I wouldn't go by myself. I also would be kind of pissy if I was invited but my signifigant other was not.

dzjenna

Seems like a lot of people were offended by the article, but it didn't really bother me.  I actually agree with most of the items.  I've never been to a wedding with a cash bar, and I wouldn't even consider it for my wedding.  All our guests are travelling and making time to come celebrate with us, the least we can do it feed them, and provide drinks.  Also, everyone on our list gets a plus one.  I just can't see inviting one person and not allowing them to bring a date/friend/whatever.  I don't care who they bring, just as long as my guest feels comfortable (and not alone) and has a great time!  When I was single, I wouldn't have wanted to go to a wedding by myself, especially if I didn't know many other guests.  I appreciate the plus one, and am extending that to our guests as well.  Also, we are getting married on a Friday, which is a bit more challenging for some guests, but in the end it's what fit our budget.  I know that some people won't be able to come, and we're ok with that.  

I think what I have to remember is that there is absolutely no way to please everyone, so we're just doing our best, but at the end of the day, we're doing what's right for us.    

pokepoke27

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_georgia-atlanta_qotd-121410?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:58Discussion:637a0e0b-3064-4daa-bc74-3a257fdd17c3Post:87517125-14d3-49e3-bf7d-a9166b08432b">Re: QOTD 12/14/10</a>:
[QUOTE]If you are going to invite someone to a wedding, I feel that a "plus one" should be part of the deal. Unless I was friends with a lot of the other people attending, I wouldn't go by myself. I also would be kind of pissy if I was invited but my signifigant other was not.
Posted by My_Matt[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree with you to an extent. If someone doesn't know anyone else at the wedding then they should get a plus one, and if anyone is in a long term relationship then they should be invited, I don't even consider long term SO's a plus one.</div>