Young junior bridesmaid

pokepoke27

For my BP I have selected my parent's good friend's daughter (11 years old) to be a JBM at my wedding. I know that my bparty is a long way away still, but here's my question anyways:
I know there is no way she would be allowed to come to my bparty, but I want her to feel included. Would I be out of line for suggesting to my MOH that before we do whatever he has planned that the whole BP (11 yr old included) go out and have mexican or something? That way she was there for a part of my bparty celebrations. Or do you think that it would be better for just me and the youngster to go out on our own?
Like I said, it's not something that's coming up next week or anything. It actually came up in conversation with my FMIL.
TIA ladies : )

bbyckes

She doesn't need to be included.  That's weird and creepy. Why would she want to go to dinner with a bunch of adults who will have to watch what they say because there's a child in their presence.   I had an 11 year-old Jr. Bridesmaid too and she was fine just participating.  Let her hang out with the other kids.  You hang out with the adults.

JRSonday

I'm doing something with my JBM (manis/pedis) to give us a girls day out. She's also coming to the bridal shower.

gardenlady11

I would do something special with her before your bparty. It would mean more that she would get to spend time with you without the other bridemaids hogging you.

Chikara Nadir

Agreed, since she's not going to be at the bparty, have some special time together and maybe invite her to the bridal shower. Maybe ask her what kind of food she likes to eat so it's even more personal.

Still make sure that she gets whatever goodies you plan on gifting the rest of your bridesmaids so she feels included, but otherwise let her have fun with the kids and her family.