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Favors (also, am I a jerk?)

I've never been someone to take favors at weddings, so decided not to have any at mine. Someone started a thread about this on another board I read and people basically said that favors are not an option, they are a must. Since the other board is people from all over the country, I figured you girls would have a better grasp on whether or not I have ot have them in the Philly area.
So, is it okay for me to not have favors or am I breaking some super-etiquette rule?

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    amy727amy727 member
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    edited December 2011
    You don't need favors.  I was at a wedding last year and didn't miss them at all.  Unless it's something edible I usually leave it also.  I'm not one to have random stuff around. 
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    edited December 2011
    most favors get wasted and usually a ton never even get taken from the reception so its a huge waste. I am doing a Photobooth so its somehting fun plus the guests can leave with a picture but it also double as the guest book too.
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    edited December 2011
    Half the time I forget about it and half the time it gets thrown out. The only favor I've really liked was a really nice ornament we got at FI's friend's wedding around Christmas. Sadly, I lost it in the move though.

    We are doing donations in lieu of favors. Some people have strong feelings against this because it is giving their gift to someone else, but I would never think that if I saw it at a wedding and I think it's a nice thing to do. 

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    ButtonsPepperButtonsPepper member
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    Most favors are a waste of money, don't bother if you don't want to.

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    edited December 2011
    I did a photo booth that dubbed as our favor and guest book. If we didn't have that I would of just made a donation. Although the food favor is not a bad idea ;)

    I honestly can't tell you what the favors were at any weddings I have attended, so if they weren't there I obviously didn't miss them!
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    Amerbutt81Amerbutt81 member
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    I didn't do favors, and I don't think anyone noticed. 

    Actually, I know my friends didn't notice until two weeks ago.  We were haning out and they said something about the favors at my wedding.  WHen I told them I didn't have any they were like , "You didn't?  I didn't even notice".

    [edit]  we actually took the money we would have spent of favors and upgraded our bar options.  So, I guess better alcohol was our favor ;)
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    dibsontopdibsontop member
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    We didn't do favors.  And not one person complained or made a comment about the lack of favors.  Spend your money elsewhere.

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    edited December 2011
    We decided that we aren't doing favors.  We haven't talked about doing a donation to an organization, but I've thought about it.  If I have any extra money left after I pay everyone, then I'm going to make a donation of some kind.  Possibly to the Brain Aneurysm Foundation or the Ronald McDonald House.  Kids who are sick always get me. 
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    edited December 2011
    >>So, I guess better alcohol was our favor ;) <<

    This is the best favor any one could give!
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    Bean32Bean32 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you all! I'll stop worrying about it now :)

    No favors for me!
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    edited December 2011
    Yeah, we were gonna do favors, but I realized there's better places we can spend our money. Like better alcohol & more food. I will have a ton of ornaments around, so if anyone wants to take any, I won't be offended.
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    edited December 2011

    Unless the favor is edible, I usually don't take it. Not on purpose, I just usually forget about it.

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    edited December 2011
    Not a jerk at all. As I am beginning this process I am becoming a bigger believer in doing what YOU want. If you don't want to do it, don't. I personally love getting favors at a wedding but I am weird.
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    edited December 2011
    I definitely don't think favors are necessary nor are they missed when they aren't there.

    We did a homemade cookie bar at our wedding and had little takeout boxes for guests to bring some home at the end of the night if they wanted.
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    CaitC21CaitC21 member
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    Something edible is always good.

    I am doing a candy buffet (all Hershey brand candies) and doing a donation to Breast Cancer.

    If someone doesn't like it too bad.
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    edited December 2011
    If we were going to do favors... we were going to do edible favors.  It just got too expensive.

    You only need so many candles shaped like pears in love. lol.
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_favors-also-am-jerk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:105Discussion:535c3b58-fb93-4147-b691-951e43d67603Post:ae36ab9a-1026-49b6-acd0-3543794e7034">Re: Favors (also, am I a jerk?)</a>:
    [QUOTE]You don't need favors.  I was at a wedding last year and didn't miss them at all.  Unless it's something edible I usually leave it also.  I'm not one to have random stuff around. 
    Posted by amy727[/QUOTE]

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    edited December 2011
    I was just about to post a similar q! FI and my mom think its a waste of $ and no one even takes them. I was beginning well maybe we should do somethign small just in case, but this has made me feel alot better!  If we have some extra $ maybe we'll do some kinda food upgrade or something. 
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    edited December 2011
    were not doing favors. so if your a jerk, then so am i =)
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    edited December 2011
    From my vast experience (and since I'm a MOB I've been to more than a few weddings), the main people who love favors are any kids you invite! (of the female variety!) Either that or food of some kind, candy seems to be a favorite.  But some brides feel they can't have a wedding without favors, the same thing with showers.  Frankly I can live without them, even if they are food.  It's a lot of extra money for something that is not needed.  JMHO though!
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