We were back in Oregon visiting his parents for the holidays. They handed us a check and said it's to help out with wedding expenses. We were pretty shocked. Had no idea this was coming, nor did we give any indication that we needed money (we're doing well). It basically equates to the price of the photographer. We thought about giving it back, but feel they'd be quite offended.
The guest list has been set already and we're at the max, so they cannot add to it. I showed FMIL photos of my venue to see if she had any brilliant ideas for decorating. None seemed like anything I envisioned doing. I was going to do this before they even gave us the check because she's super crafty. However, we actually won't see them until the wedding, so not like they can give a TON of input. They really are up for helping with anything if we just ask. Very sweet of them.
However, I am just leary about our new obligation to them that comes with their donation. Like if they have ideas or suggestions, I almost feel like I'm obligated to take some of them into consideration or make some of them happen because of their donation. Am I right on this thought?
Do they get added to the invitation now? Not even sure how you'd word that for his parents. I was feeling mighty proud about just having our names on it because we were paying for it all. I'm trying to not make it obvious to my mom that they donated.
Don't get me wrong - that was extremely nice and generous of them to do that and we thanked them profusely! I'm just thinking about what has to be done differently now. The logistics, if you will. I've only shared my concerns with you people!