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My guest list is too big!

Help!  The location I have booked holds a maximum of 200 people.  I have a huge family that has a bad habit of not RSVPing and bringing more people than those invited.  If I invite everyone on my list I have 192 people not including kids because I don't know if they have children and how many.  If I do the A & B list and only invite aunts & uncles, they may bring all of their grown children & grandchildren.  What do I do? 

Re: My guest list is too big!

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    ChelseyparkerChelseyparker member
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    edited December 2011
    Have you sent out your invitations yet? If you haven't on the envelope you need to address to to EACH person invited, (if you have 2 envelopes you would list each name on the inner one) I have the same type of problem, how I did my envelopes was like this Mr. & Mrs. John Smith Miss Katie Smith Master Bob Smith 1012 address city state zip One family I invited has 10 kids, granted I only knew the 2 eldest ones. so I only addressed the envelope to the parents and the 2 that I wanted invited. The other option is on your RSVP cards to put how many seats are reserved for that family. GL
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    chelbell326chelbell326 member
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    edited December 2011
    We did customized RSVP cards (printed them ourselves) & listed each invited person on the RSVP card with the spots for them to accept/decline & then choose their reception meal. That way they know exactly who's invited :-)
    no identifiable siggy pictures anymore, thanks a lot stupid nest!
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    edited December 2011
    I am stressed about guests lists too- as I know I have committed the cardinal sin and invited more than my venue can hold.  But 80% of my guest list is flying in from Ohio or Iowa, so I know (OK- So I am hoping) that we have at least 50 declines.  (And this number counts all of their kids...)  I am totally banking on RSVP cards.  Since you say that your family is not the RSVP type, I would totally do what chellebelle recommended by making a personalized RSVP card- I recommend Vista Print- that would be easy and cheap unless you can do this with the invitation package you have picked out.   I would list each person's name invited, with a box by each name.    If you do not get responses from people by your RSVP date- I would definitely call all of them! It sounds tedious and annoying, but I think I would rather do this, than be worried about numbers and space up until the day!  GL! 
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you!  Your suggestions are so helpful!  Do you think it would be rude to do something to the effect of this or that a bit much?We are looking forward to celebrating with you. Unfortunately we are unable to extend this invitation to anyone other than the parties listed on the invitation due to limited space. Kindly respond by September 8th. ___ seats have been reserved in your honor Names of of guest(s) attending:   __Total # of guests attending __ Will not attend
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    edited December 2011
    I personally don't think you should include that middle paragraph about sorry that we could only extend this invite to these people, etc etc. I would just right ___  seats reserved in your honor and make sure those names are on the envelope.  GL! 
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    edited December 2011
    You're right, it's tacky.  Thank you!
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