assigned tables?

coolcourt85

Did you/are you going to assign your guests to a table? Why or why not? I am trying to figure out whether we should or not...what are your thoughts?Thanks!

APJones2001

We are doing only a few assigned tables for our parents and grandparents. other than that our guests can choose. Hopefully they wont be sitting for long,we want them on the dancefloor!

masked_rose86

I am simply because I think it is easier for the chaos of people trying to find a place to sit.  Plus then I don't run into people trying to move around place settings etc.  In general, I think I can put people with who I think they would like to sit with, and I think that makes it easier on everyone.  And as the previous poster said, after dinner people tend to move around a lot once dancing begins.

chelbell326

We are doing assigned tables & seats because FI's family has some drama & we are trying to ensure that certain people are as far across the room as possible from others (lots of fun...NOT).

mouse10031978

I am doing assigned tables, but not assigned seats. I would at least do this, if you don't want oto do assigned seats.  I have been to a few weddings before that have just sucked because we ended up sitting with people we totally didn't know (especially if it is an oot wedding for us) and we are also looking forward to catching up with friends or family.  I just read a review yesterday (I think from Steffenfam) that she said this was one of her regrets because somehow a bunch of aunts and uncles got stuck at the back...

VAtoCO

I am also doing assigned tables, but not assigned seats.  I have groups of friends that I would like to have sit together and don't want to see a "free for all" when it comes to my guests finding a seat.

cadenaam

Ditto Chelbel....we have some people that don't exactly get along famously so we're assigning tables to ensure everyone is far enough away from each other to not be annoyed with them.Not assigning seats, just tables.

erin48

I also did assigned tables for many of the above reasons.  I wanted to make sure certain family members weren't stuck in the back, and I wanted to put people together who I knew would get along.  I personally hate weddings where there is no assigned tables, it is awkward.

charlsie26

i have been to a few weddings with out assigned tables and it sucks.  I sat my stuff at one place setting, got up to get a drink and came back and my seat had been taken.  What the...?  So we had to sit with some preaty strange people we had no connection with.  made for an awkward and boring night for us. 

cobride2be83

we did and it worked out well. we didn't want close relatives getting stuck in the back also my parents are divorced and didn't want them too close to each other.

LesPaul

No, we're not.  For a few reasons:  the reception is on the main floor of a B&B, and we don't have room to seat all 80 guests at once in the same room.  it's buffet style with cafe tables in the great room and other seating on the patio.  we want people to mingle, walk around, enjoy the music, garden & patio, enjoy the B&B, eat, drink, etc. rather than all sit and eat at once like a plated meal would be.  more like a cocktail party atmosphere than a dinner party.Depends on your individual circumstances and taste - venue, number of guests, formality of the meal and seating, buffet vs. plated meal . . . all that stuff.

BrideBuddies

LesPaul.. I know you're doing this because of space considerations.   But don't be surprised if some guests "claim" a spot and don't budge from it.  Especially the elderly ones.   On paper it sounds logical, but people don't act logical. You can't "force" people to mingle.   I've seen this happen several times and it's not pretty.   You really should have a chair for every butt.To answer the original question... yes... at least assign seats.  It ends up like a junior high cafeteria when you force guests to try and find an empty seat.  Not fun at all.  

steffenfam

Mouse, it was for the ceremony that I didn't reserve rows for family :(We did assign tables to guests, however we did have a guest show up that we were not expecting, thankfully my SIL ran to get an extra place setting for him!