My trip home part 1

[Deleted User]

So it was all go wedding while we were in Philadelphia.  I was ready to kill my mom during much of the trip so over all I think I'm glad I live far away.  

The day after we landed my mom, FI and I went to see Nilah.  FI sat in her living room reading the newspaper and my mom and I went to try on the dress.  The background for those of you who haven't been around for two years- We got engaged, I came home for Christmas went to a POB sample sale bought a dress, hated it as soon as I got home.  Looked at a ton of other dresses, but couldn't find exactly what I wanted.  Took the dress I had to Nilah she said she could make what I had into what I wanted, score.  

    I now love what she is making, got a bit teary.  Still looking for a sash.  

     Then my mom made me try on 1000 veils even though

 1 my foot is broken and it is difficult for me to stand 

2 I decided to make my own since I want a simple veil and refuse to pay $300 for said piece of tulle.  

We also cut 2 layers of crinny out of my dress and I like the skirt more now that it isn't taking over the room.  

I saw some fab ladies and gents in the next day or two.  ;-)  

We met with our DJ and photog and then checked out 4th street looking for stuff for my sash.  I think I maybe better off just buying one from Nilah, but now I know.  However I will get my tulle from 4th street.

  My parents picked out my photog and DJ and I'm very happy with both.  FI explain how a reception works to the DJ which was embarrassing, but there you go.  FI hasn't been to many weddings and only one US wedding which was off beat.  

FI also found a really nice sweater a J Crew for $13.99 while waiting for the DJ, score.  

Dress when I bought it

Dress now.  I will have a sash with some bling and she will add straps as well.  She is also adding buttons all the way down the back of the dress.  

My mom sucks at taking pictures btw.  

miguelhilary2010

I like the changes you made to your dress, and I think a sash/belt thing would look great.

[Deleted User]

Thanks, looking at the pictures the skirt still looks a bit big, but I think it's because I'm so short so the fabric is just pooling at my feet.  

So moving on day 2 or 3 we bought Cranes 110 lb. paper online with envelopes with the thought to design our invites and have them printed and cut at Kinkos.  Well the paper arrived 2 days later with one corner smashed in so we retuned it.  

In the mean time we couldn't have anything printed until we had our tasting.  Well that was difficult because our venue had christmas stuff plus a wedding.  Ah!  We didn't get in until Dec 29th!  

It was amazing!  My brother was a late add on and didn't plan on eating, but they made food for him anyway.  We had two different salads, two salmons and two beefs.  We decided on a salad with apples, blue cheese, and mixed greens.  FI said it had too much romaine and the club said NO problem.  

They also gave us desert.  My brother had never had creme brulee before and wants it for the wedding in addition to the cake.  He LOVED it!  

So the next day we went to print our invites and Kinkos printers don't work on our paper.  The ink is really faint and scratches off.  CRAP!  So my /brother is seeing if his friend can get a letterpress for us.  Finger crossed.  

Bride_to_be_2011

Sorry to hear about the invites, fingers crossed! I also like the dress and can't wait for you to find a sash, it will look lovely.

miguelhilary2010

If you want to at least make a call, I know a guy who owns a copy/print/shipping store in NJ (Washington Twp area).  He offered to print stuff for my wedding.

Tom at Postnet
856-582-0018

jennyinyellow

Glad you made it home safe!!!!

[Deleted User]

I forgot on the day we went to see the photog and DJ we went to get the suits sorted at Black Tie.  FI wants Morning Suits as that's what Brits wear and it's the correct formal wear before 6pm, he does things by the book!  

So when the  guy at the store gets to the tie part of the paper FI says the guys will have their own tie.  My mom asks about this and FI explains each guy will pick his own tie after being given a paint chip so he's in the right color family.  My mom flips out.  It will look horrible what are we thinking, the wedding will be ruined.  All in the store.  

Then the guy starts talking about shoes and FI says everyone has shoes we don't need them.  My mom gets even more  upset.  They have to rent shoes, it will look bad.  I pointed out all the girls are wearing different jewelry, kinda like different ties, and different shoes.  She would not listen.  

FI said morning suits do not call for patent leather shoes and everyone has dress shoes as they work in suits and rental shoes tend to hurt.  She is still ranting.  

then the guy said if they end up needing shoes or ties Thursday before the wedding no problem they can do it.  Mom storms off.  Then she realizes the car is far and it's cold out.  

DRAMA!

[Deleted User]

Thank you MH I will have my mom call.  We get along very well when 

i am here and she is there and I can avoid her if i want.  

miguelhilary2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_trip-home-part-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:105Discussion:72ac564a-a7b2-42de-a326-891a0ad43744Post:0f0eb079-f47a-474e-9a5e-fb13d2f7b8dd">Re: My trip home part 1</a>:
[QUOTE]Thank you MH I will have my mom call.  We get along very well when  i am here and she is there and I can avoid her if i want.  
Posted by NCV2[/QUOTE]

No problem.  I have a similar arrangement with my mom, but we're only 1 hour apart :)

Bride_to_be_2011

oh my that is a lot of drama!

[Deleted User]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_trip-home-part-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:105Discussion:72ac564a-a7b2-42de-a326-891a0ad43744Post:b452f15c-1f8f-4050-b17a-c19d32867865">Re: My trip home part 1</a>:
[QUOTE]oh my that is a lot of drama!
Posted by Bride_to_be_2011[/QUOTE]

<div>There is more, I just can't think of all of it at the moment.  </div><div>
</div><div>Oh wait I have one.</div><div>
</div><div>We went for a cake tasting.  I didn't even want to go to the place, Aux Petits Delices in Wayne.  I knew it was good, but not want I wanted in a wedding cake.  But SHE wanted to go so we did.  </div><div>My dad and I were not impressed, this is 2 days after I was really sick keep in mind so I didn't want to eat too much.  </div><div>
</div><div>So at the end we said we would think about it and left with the info.</div><div>Then we went to Dough Main.  On the way over FI said he would go in and do the talking.  He's good at sales and he has the accent working for him as well. So he and my mom go in, he starts with the pre sale and my mom interrupts and messes everything up.  </div><div>We wanted the cake that day but the girl said come back the next day.  Then we called and tried to change the time and the girl said come back the day after and we needed to do it the due to the fact that were leaving.  </div><div>
</div><div>My mom kept interrupting FI at the club when we went to talk about the menu as well, FI kept kicking me like I can control my mom.  She is BSC.  </div>

Bride_to_be_2011

WOW, shes like a momzilla. What is BSC??

[Deleted User]

I call her bridezilla.  Bat Sh!t crazy.

Bride_to_be_2011

ah yes I remember that now.  Yes she is acting like the bride. Good thing you don't live close, you might kill her.

[Deleted User]

I have read about girls complain about their moms etc for 2 years and I get it now.  Mind you living with my parents, my sister, brother, and my grand-mom didn't help.   Plus the broken foot and only having 2 cars.  

caraellen23

Attack of Momzilla!!  What a pain.  Glad you got a lot done despite all the sickness/handicapness.

I have no idea if you'd be interested or if it would match, but you're welcome to borrow my veil if you want.  Its two-tier fingertip length with scattered pearls.  I just don't know about the color becuase your dress looks more ivory than mine was.  But you're welcome to use it if you'd like.  I couldn't bring myself to sell it, but its just sitting in my closet.

LaRositaMonita

This sounds like so much of what happened wit my mom.  In the interest of wanting to help/make things perfect, she drove me crazy a few times...we have a blow-up drag-ut fight after my meeting with Leslie over flowers because she would not stop asking Leslie abut flowers that were way out of my budget.  Clearly we worked it out, but I got to the point where I stopped asking my mom's opinion and just started asking her approval after something was finished.  "Look at the invitations I just bought!" worked out well.  I als put her in charge of bathroom baskets since I didn't care about those and she was dying to make/contribute something   It worked out swimmingly.

To bad you are lanning long distance and probably need to rely on her more, NCV.  I feel your pain!

[Deleted User]

IT actually works out well when I'm away LRM for whatever reason.  It's just when 

I go back I want to kill her. 

My parents found my photog and I love her.  She talked to 100 DJs until we pulled the trigger and I love him too, went to yours btw but we don't have Kim.  As soon as I tell my friends the name of the company they get all excited.  Good choice.  

I really want to stay in the hotel the night before with one of my BM BUT two of my friends from London are staying with my parents.  So I'm kinda stuck.  I think she is going to stress me out.  

LaRositaMonita

I'm sure you'll be thrilled with No Macarena - we talked to Kim abut backup plans and she mentioned a number of the guys she works with and how awesome they als are  

I think the best peacekeeping I did with my mom was the week or so before the wedding when she was scrambling to hep with something, anything, because she was so excited.  I just wanted to get through that week and get to the wedding already.  So I told her over the phone that her only job from that point forward was to show up and have the best time ever.  She totally backed off and got it after that. 

Your dress look fabulous, by the way. So elegant!

[Deleted User]

Thanks.  

The problem is I'm staying with her for 2 weeks before the wedding!  Ahhh!

She is honestly making everything so much worse then it has to be.