Long story short

ILoveToRobot

We let one of my BM's to transfer her invite from her BF to her friend. Now, thinking about everything my mom and I thought it would be kind of weird to let her friend come to the rehearsal dinner. I know the friend but wouldn't have considered inviting her to the wedding in the first place and definitely not the rehearsal.

I mean, it's not really fair to other people in the wedding party who weren't allowed to bring a friend because they were invited as singles because they are singles. I think it's like rubbing it in their faces that the one BM gets to bring a friend and no one else especially to the rehearsal that FI's parents are paying for and had a cow originally about the size of the dinner guest list.

Would you let the friend come to the dinner? I'm starting to wish we had nipped this in the butt from the get go and told her no because now she's trying to convince me to let her BF come as well... ugh. 

BeachLover2885

I wouldn't let her bring her friend to the RD. To me it's unnecessary and it's just for significant others. Explain to her that it's just for the BP and SOs. She should understand. HTH

michelle11988

I would definitely not let her bring her friend to the RD since it seems like you want a smaller, intimate affair and that others are not allowed to bring guests beyond their SO's. 

arunkumar

No the friend should not be invited to the rehearsal dinner, just the wedding. To be discreet about making an exception for your BM, you should not bring her to the dinner and let everyone else know.  Your BM does not need her friend at the dinner just because her BF can't come.

honeybear072012

She's trying to let you bring the BF too??  Seriously, is this party about her now?

I'm with PP.  No other guests at RD that are not in the BP or are not the SO of someone in the BP.  To complicated!

Why couldn't the BF come before but now he can?

littlemoments324

Ditto...no friend to RD...not necessary...

LADY324

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[QUOTE]Ditto...no friend to RD...not necessary...
Posted by littlemoments324[/QUOTE]

tritto

ILoveToRobot

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[QUOTE]She's trying to let you bring the BF too??  Seriously, is this party about her now? I'm with PP.  No other guests at RD that are not in the BP or are not the SO of someone in the BP.  To complicated! Why couldn't the BF come before but now he can?
Posted by honeybear072012[/QUOTE]

I'm not sure, I didn't ask for details because I didn't want to get into it. It was really weird because I told her no to her BF and friend being able to come and she accepted that answer and I thought it was done with. Apparently he wouldn't accept the answer. He contacted me begging to let him come and I was like talk to your GF. It's a $200+ per person reception and they just don't get it. He was like I'll pay! Ummm no you won't! First of all I'm not going to flaunt the cost of everything to the guests and you guys can't afford a hotel room so we're providing lodging. How can you afford $200 + if you can't afford a hotel room? Crazy I tell ya!

honeybear072012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Long story short : I'm not sure, I didn't ask for details because I didn't want to get into it. It was really weird because I told her no to her BF and friend being able to come and she accepted that answer and I thought it was done with. Apparently he wouldn't accept the answer. He contacted me begging to let him come and I was like talk to your GF. It's a $200+ per person reception and they just don't get it. He was like I'll pay! Ummm no you won't! First of all I'm not going to flaunt the cost of everything to the guests and you guys can't afford a hotel room so we're providing lodging. How can you afford $200 + if you can't afford a hotel room? Crazy I tell ya!
Posted by ILoveToRobot[/QUOTE]

Oh boy....Sounds like a bunch of unnecessary drama!  Should have just said yes in the first place and left the friend out of it.  If he persists tell him to try and get the friend not to come...

Good luck with it all!  Don't let it stress you out so close to the wedding!