all the fine details after the reception

wildflowerWed79727

Just curious how everybody is handleing transportation and hotels for ppl that are drinking and don't wanna drive or that doesn't have a dd...I plan on blocking rooms at a hotel that offers shuttle services to and from but my problem is what if some ppl can't afford the room...its 100 and to some ppl I guess that would be a lot and some it will be fine for...also curious about how and who gets everything together from the reception afterwards like the toasting glasses guessbook photobooth prints stuff like that? Does the venue do that after clean up or will I just have to ask them?

penny12986

I think it is all based on your situation.

We have blocked rooms for people who would prefer to have a room but we are not going to make it our responsibility to see that people prepare ahead of time.  We provide food and drinks to people but we are not responsible for babysitting them.  The cheapest room block that I could block was $199.  I know that some people can't afford that but Boston is expensive in the summer and hopefully they will make other arrangements.  Sorry if this sounds harsh but everyone has to make this decision before they RSVP to a social event.

For packing up all of the items and decorations, I hired a DOC to handle that and I will pick everything up from her a few days later.  You should ask your venue how previous brides have handled this.  It is possible that they could provide a storage room to keep all of this stuff until you can get it.

k8888

The hotel we blocked rooms with also provides a small shuttle, but we may have to hire a larger shuttle, depending on how many people end up staying over.

Like penny said, it's not our responsibility to babysit our guests and I would hope they are mature/responsible enough to take care of themselves with drinking and driving.  There are plenty of cabs in the area, as well.

For reception items, I have family members and friends who have offered their car space to take stuff home with them so we can pick it up the next day.  Our car will already be at the hotel.

colleenm18

I agree with penny.

Our venue is a hotel so we have rooms blocked off and we will be spending the night there.  If our guest decide this is not what they want to do then not much i can do about it.  I think as long as you offer the choice of a room block the rest is up to your guest.

AllyG303

Luckily our reception is at a hotel, so hopefully they'll just book rooms there.  As far as picking up stuff goes, I'll probably designate a family member or friend to take care of it. 

MeaganR12

What Penny said.

Our room block is $100/night with a shuttle, if people can't afford that then they obviously don't care about having a hotel room with transportation that badly. 

We're having an after party in the hotel lobby/bar. 

dramaqueen91087

Our venue is across the street from the hotel. We have a room block there and people can stay if they want to. Otherwise, there are plenty of cabs around and it is up to them to be responsible. As for getting stuf at the end of the night, my venue is awesome and will take care of everything for us. They bring everything across the street to the suite we have booked for family and friends. That even includes food leftover so they don't go to waste! They will also, if we pay for it, bring over new food after the event. I love my venue!

BrightFirefly

Our reception is from noon to 4:00 - and the only alcohol will be things like mimosas and probably house wine for an hour - so if people managed to get drunk in that amount of time on those drinks - shame shame.

But if it was an evening reception, I wouldn't babysit people to make sure they don't drink and drive. I have a VERY low tolerance for people that can't take responsibility for their actions when they drink/

Madisonpenny

We're giving people a list of B&Bs and hotels they can stay at. As far as the whole transportation thing everyone attending is old enough to know better than to drink and drink.  We're offering lots of non-alcohol choices to drink.
As far as who takes care of all the items like guestbooks and decorations at the end of the night we're responsible for it, but we'll probably put someone in charge for that.

mekiakoo

We have a block of rooms at a nearby hotel (people will still need to drive though). No shuttles will be provided and transportation will be their responsibility. We are not having children at the wedding (except for family) and they're all adults, they can make good choices (I hope). They know better and it wouldn't be any different if we all went out to a bar, you know?

Our reception venue will take care of cleaning up, but we have about 3 people who have volunteered to clean up. We have some "assigned tasks" for some family members- like my parents say they want to take care of the gifts/guestbook. I am not sure what to do about the centerpieces yet- maybe give them away (less hassle!). FMIL's friend volunteered to set up and clean up the decorations. We are not going to have a ton of stuff- we don't want to worry about where everything will be after the reception.

wildflowerWed79727

Thanx so much guys I'm just really stressing out about ppl driving drunk because if something were to happen to them I am going to feel awful..I'm hoping too they act like adults and be wise about their choices..ok so since I have a block of rooms and cab numbers I shouldn't feel any more stress...hahaha..and about the decorations and stuff I was planning my maid of honour and my mom being in charge of that but wasn't sure if that is how things went if you had to do it yourself...thanks again ladies

michelle11988

I am booking a bus to shuttle my guests around.  It is in a rural-ish area loaded with cops and windy roads at night.  I get nervous driving late at night in the winter up there and most of our people don't know the area at all.  There are also no cabs that I know of so I took the safer is better route on it and figured it was worth the couple hundred dollars it will be to book the shuttle.  My parents are going to probably help collect everything after the reception but the venue usually only does one wedding a weekend and only one a day so if I forget anything I can swing by the next morning probably.

littlemoments324

I'm a huge stickler when it comes to drinking & driving...When I was in college, I would take my friend's keys & hide them somewhere in my room so they couldn't take their cars & leave...they'd have to call a taxi or crash at my place.

As far as the wedding goes, people can take the shuttle to the hotel & get a room if they would like.  Other than that, they should be more responsible and our families will take care of anyone who may have had a little too much.  They won't let them leave.