Okay, so I have a Maid of Honor, a Matron or Honor and 5 BMs. That's kind of a lot, but I really couldn't imagine getting married without each girl as part of my BP.
My Matron of Honor is a wonderful person, and I know she has put a lot work into my shower, but she is also kind of bossy and since I'm pretty easy going I've usually just gone along with things over the many years. When I was a BM in her wedding I seriously fell in line with whatever she wanted.
Okay, so last Saturday The MatOH, a BM, my Mom and myself went to the dress shop to see the BM dress I picked out. (MaidOH got stuck in the snow, but made a great effort.
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I loved the original BM dress I picked, it was pretty and didn't look like every other BM dress, which was what I wanted. The MatOH and BM HATED it! My heart sank, but I didn't want them to have to wear a dress they seemed to despise so much. So I offered to have them look around. The MatOH picked out a dress that was pretty, but boring and looked like every BM dress I have ever seen. I sort of went a long with it, but stop short of actually ordering so that the MaidOH that was stuck in the snow could get a chance to see. The more I look at this dress (in pic) the more
I hate it. It would be good for an outdoor country wedding, but not a Saturday night, down in the city.
So my Mom encouraged me to look online today for other dresses. I found a beautiful Alfred Angelo (thanks to a Knottie who posted the link), and found one that I do love. It would work with everyone's body type (esp with a bolero) and is actually cheaper than the dress the MatOH picked. I shot the link over to my Mom and both MOHs. The MaidOH instantly said she loved it, and my MatOH instantly shot it down and began sending me more pictures of the dress I don't like because that's the one she wants. She is planning on being 3-4 months pregnant in July and wants a dress that can be made into a maternity dress. I think the dress I like can be, but she is insisting that it can't, and that she needs us to get the ugly dress.
I feel like I have always been so easy going for so long that I have set a precedent, and on the day of the wedding she may not be pregnant yet, but I'm still going to hate the BM dress. That being said, I would never expect someone to plan a life decision around my wedding. I just tease them that if their water is going to break to please step to the side of the alter. Haha The MaidOH keeps telling me that it's my wedding, and that I'm the one that needs to like the dress. FYI-She think the other dress will be really unflattering, and that the dress I picked shouldn't make anyone feel uncomfortable. She is one that is really hard on herself as well. (Her words were "it's not like you picked a slinky mermaid dress"
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Anyway, I posted the link of the dress I like (it would be the Royal Blue) and I am convinced if we took off the belt and added a tied on pale yellow sash, her 3-4month pregnancy belly would fit nicely under the pleats. She could also easily wear a bolero (at her request) to cover her arms.
So am I a Bridezilla that I want to say "No" or a pushover that one person is dictating the entire wedding party attire. I thought about letting them pick their own, but I think it'd be a disaster. (Plus she'd pick the one I hate-haha)
I have to run to a work dinner, but I will be home in a few hours, just so you guys don't think I'm ignoring your responses.
Do you think this dress could be maternity? (She's plus sized)
http://www.alfredangelo.com/collections/productdisplay.aspx?productID=7ea7e5ba-8a55-4b53-b17c-fc98d1f811ef&categoryID=772f03c9-de43-4942-bfa0-da77e21ebd65&pg=1&colorId1=