Wedding Anxiety

Kenrima

Our wedding isn't until February but I'm already feeling so much anxiety! We have 2 kids and have been living together for the past 8 years. I'm not sure why I'm feeling this way! I'm so concerned about details. I'm so impatient and I want everything finalized NOW. Ugh. I can't sleep anymore I've never had that problem. One thing that really makes me uncomfortable is changing my last name. I don't know why. I'm going from one horrible last name to another horrible last name, but I feel like I'm giving up "me.". Again we have 2 kids and have been living together for 8 years I haven't been "me" in a loooong time! I don't know why I feel this way :

BrideLaurenH

I felt the same way when I first got engaged in Jan 2011, We planned our wedding for March 23,2012. We also have been living together (on and off) for 8 years and we have 2 boys together(7 &1). I started researching venues and trying to get a budget together. Booked the venue one year in advance then started slowly tackling the projects. I got an idea of who I wanted to use for what(photog, videog, dj).
I have to change both of my kids names along with mine too. We went together when I had our first and another long story for the second.

Breathe!

Kello4221

I had anxiety when we were booking vendors, but feel better now (three months from tomorrow!)  My anxiety was about the wedding though, not the marraige, so I think it's just the stress of wanting to plan the perfect party.

Anyways, you have lots of options with your name.  You could move it to your middle name, you could not officially change it, but socially use it, hyphenate, etc.  If it really bothers just think of other options! 

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I planned on changing my name until after my wedding.  I had to delay because of a visa, I live in London.  During the 4 months waiting for the visa I decided it was really weird to change my name, it's MY name.  So I didn't change it in the end.  

I think if I didn't have the visa and I could have just changed my passport right away I would have changed it, but the think time made me realize how weird it is, for me anyway.  

So my point is do what's right for you not what other people tell you to do.  

Kenrima

I just don't want to hurt his feelings by not changing my name :-(.  I have to change our kids names too.  They are 7 and 3.  The 3 year old is too little to care but my 7 year old seems to be okay with it.  Blah, too many decisions all at once!!