your FI has totally bad wedding ideas?? Haha jk! But really.. FI and I are not managing to agree on hardly anything. We DO want to have little surprises and do things people haven't seen here before. We DO like fancy-ish things and having memorable pieces (like server sets etc.) We DO want a fun dancing party with all our friends and fam. And the list stops about there. I thought we could have a romantic love bird type theme that would be representative of our journey and story together... and I was really starting to get on my way with it. Until last night he told me he hates it! He doesn't like birds (who doesn't like birds??!) and he feels that wouldn't be a wedding he could call "his". :-\ Clearly, my idea has now gone down the drain. Then I ask for suggestions... he doesn't have any! He's basically really good at saying no but not giving better ideas or alternatives. Really frustrating.
At times he seems to be uninterested in planning and details but then OTHER times he has all sorts of opinions, which are always against my ideas of course. Other days he gets all resentful cuz he's not involved in anything and it's all about "my wedding", but when I go to him for ideas, suggestions, looking for a way to include something that would be his style... I get nothing!! Or not so good ideas. I know that sounds terrible to say, but even he's admitted he's having a hard time thinking "wedding". He admitted he gets sidetracked and starts thinking up ideas for "a really awesome birthday party"..... Like he said he thinks it would be cool to have a huge ice sculpture of his dog.. his dog that doesn't live with us and doesn't really tie in anywhere with us. That would be perfect for his surprise groomscake.. but ice sculpture in the middle of the reception? Or he said he thinks it'd be cool to have a rave theme, when half our guests don't like electronic as much as he does (although here I have no problems whatsoever with getting him dance lights and rave-esque things to jazz up the dance party.. but just not as a central theme) And last night he suggested having flags to represent our countries. But I think flags are really tacky looking. And so far these are the only ideas/ suggestions I've managed to pull out of him. I'm trying my hardest to find better executions or alternatives for his ideas, but it's getting tough here!
Ugh, so those are my frustrations planning with FI lately. Just had to share with somebody! Sorry for the bit of a rant there. Anybody else dealing with difficult FIs while planning??
