Hump Day Wednesday

BlissPhilly

It's Hump Day...Now’s the time for Vents, Open Letters and Confessions....Get it off your chest!

deija97

Here's my vent/confession.  This is my second wedding.  First marriage lasted 10 years and had 3 kids.  FI has two kids but has never been married.  I'm really doing the whole wedding thing because of him.  Most days I wish we had just eloped. I'm 34 years old and feel like I'm too old to be planning and celebrating like a young bride.  Especially since its my second time around.
My vent is that I have no help.  I'm planning everything alone.  Our families say if I need help just ask but in honesty they are just being polite.  Once I start talking about the wedding they just change the subject.  FI's mother isn' t fond of me because I have kids.  She doesn't like kids other than her grandkids.  His dad isn't attending the wedding because he hates FI's mom (his exwife).  3 1/2 months left and I'm just ignoring everything and moving forward.  I guess I'll just hope that our familes attend and we'll all have a good time.

BlissPhilly

I have 2 confessions and an open letter LOL
Confession #1: I deactivated my FB account after being annoyed by the fact that it made a few people "matter" who aren't important to me in REAL life.

Confession #2: Deactivating my FB account made me feel "free" from the unnecessary stupidity but I still think about FB everyday and wonder what the people in my REAL life that DO matter to me are posting LOL 

Dear FB,

I don't care how deep you've gotten in my head...I'm NOT coming back!

Sincerely,
Me

angelstar975

Confession: I'm really struggling between what I want my wedding to be and what kind of money I want to have in the bank after the wedding. On the one hand, it's just one day and then it's over... on the other hand, I've been dreaming about this one day since I was little and what I want isn't exactly extravagant, in my opinion. I know we'll get some money as gifts. Since our parents are paying for the wedding, whatever money we do get will tecnically be a "profit" for lack of a better word. (Obviously we're not inviting people to get money, we want to share our day with the people we care about, but weddings do generally come with gifts.)

Vent: Venue minimums annoy me. If we could cut 15 or 20 guests from the list, we'd have more breathing room in the budget and possibly money leftover. Price per head is reasonable, I just want to have 15 fewer heads there!

bridetobe71412

Confession/Vent: I really don't want to hear my fiance's opinion when I ask for it for wedding-related things, because I know for a fact that 1) he doesn't really care, and/or 2) he doesn't really know what he's talking about.

I know that makes me a horrible bridezilla, but he just doesn't understand some things about the wedding.

For example, he wants to give a down-to-the-song list to our band of what to play. I'm sorry, no. "Do not play" list? Sure. But I'm not going to micromanage them by telling them precisely what songs to play. That's absurd. Especially for people whose job it is to make decisions about what songs are getting a good (dancing) response, what songs are boring the audience, etc. That's why we're paying them! They're the professionals!

jelybeancg

Vent:  How hard is it to drop a response card in the mail? And if you can't how hard is it to answer your phone or respond to an email following up on your lack of RSVP?!?!?

Dear FI,
It is not an "ultimatum" to tell people who have not RSVPed on time that we need to hear from them by a certain date because of vendor deadlines and that if we don't hear from them after repeated attempts to contact them that we will have to put them down as a no. And yes it is rude when your cousins have your Aunts & Uncles call your parents and say your cousins won't come unless they can bring a date eventhough we decided to only give +1s to people in relationships and everyone on my side & our friends respected that. And it is even more rude that your parents said yes to these requests even though they are not hosting and have no authority to do so.

P.S. Your family is rude & inconsiderate.

Love,
Your bride-to-be who is over the nonsense.

adrienne0925

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_hump-day-wednesday-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:105Discussion:eba71374-d1f3-443d-bf2a-56d96091fa6aPost:32db1adc-888b-46e4-9bea-4cfb34c95886">Re: Hump Day Wednesday</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>Vent:  How hard is it to drop a response card in the mail? And if you can't how hard is it to answer your phone or respond to an email following up on your lack of RSVP?!?!?</strong> Dear FI, It is not an "ultimatum" to tell people who have not RSVPed on time that we need to hear from them by a certain date because of vendor deadlines and that if we don't hear from them after repeated attempts to contact them that we will have to put them down as a no. And yes it is rude when your cousins have your Aunts & Uncles call your parents and say your cousins won't come unless they can bring a date eventhough we decided to only give +1s to people in relationships and everyone on my side & our friends respected that. And it is even more rude that your parents said yes to these requests even though they are not hosting and have no authority to do so. P.S. Your family is rude & inconsiderate. Love, Your bride-to-be who is over the nonsense.
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This!!! I agree...I have had so many people say I'll give it to you when I see you...WHAT?  I wasted money on stamps so you better get off your ass and drop it in the darn mailbox. Geesh!

jessa1228

Job vent. I don't understand how my boss still has a job. She constantly calls out and/or is late. When she does manage to make it in, she sits in the office all day and plays on her phone and the computer while the rest of us are busting our asses out on the floor to get all of our work done. Other people in the store actually consider ME the head of the department and will come to ME if they need stuff done because they know it will actually get done in a timely manner. As much as I love her, I secretly hope she's given an ultimatum soon about her work performance. I'm tired of making her look good for her bosses.

Dear Ab Ripper X,

I hate you. You make me so sore, and I feel pathetic when I can't do some of your exercises. I better start seeing results soon, then maybe I'll consider liking you.

Love,

Me