Okay Ladies,
I need your help on an issue with my FMIL. Let me start at the beginning:
When we first were making our wedding budget and dividing up who would pay for what, FMIL offered to pay for flowers and the rehearsal dinner. I’ve been working with her along with the florists and checking with her about the costs. She agreed to, and paid deposit to, the florist we finally chose. So, I’m thinking everything is good, we are set on the flowers.
Then last night happened……She tells me she wants to talk about the centerpieces. She’s decided that she wants to make the centerpieces. She said she talked to her friend who told her the cost is too much per centerpiece and she can make them herself for much cheaper. (They are $75 each).
Here is my problem with this. I’m not really sure they will end up costing that much less once she buys all the materials. Then she’s going to have to lug all the vases and materials down to OBX with her and sit there on the day of our wedding making them (they have sand & water in them so they can’t be pre-made). Also, I like our florist (who is also an event designer btw) and I know that I trust her more to make the tables look classy and expensive, not cheap and cheesy- as I think FMIL’s will look (if her house décor is a reflection of her decorating taste, I am scared). I just really would rather order them from the florist and not have to worry on my wedding day about something this stupid. But I’m not sure if I have the energy to fight her on this either. It is important to me, and I did spend time figuring out how we wanted to tables to look, so I’m reluctant to just give up on it. I hate having to fight her on something that I feel should be my decision as the bride. But I’m also just really tired of butting heads over stuff with her, it’s exhausting. So, I’m not sure what to do.
HELP! What would you do?