is it normal to....

butterflyjumper1

have second thoughts about your dress?? as soon as i put my dress on, i KNEW it was the one for me....but now that i keep looking at pictures of it online, i worry about whether i picked the right one/whether all my guests and friends will think it is pretty or weird/etc.....

k8888

Yep... right there with you....

I'm trying to put it out of my mind until the first fitting.  I haven't seen the dress on me in my size yet, so that has a lot to do with it.

mekiakoo

I would say this is common. I've seen other ladies around TK feel the same way!

Not for me though, probably because I can't even imagine going back and looking for a dress again. That was a lot of work!! I don't like shopping

owengirl996

It's probably because you're looking at it on someone else. I've kind of felt the same way when looking at it online...then I go find the (somewhat crappy) phone picture of me in it, and I remember why I loved it...and it wasn't even a perfect fit yet.

On a completely different note, I had a crazy WR dream last night that I ended up in a bright pink ugly dress LOL So when I woke up, I felt even more relieved I bought the dress I did!

bridetobe71412

Totally normal! There are so many gorgeous gowns out there, but you picked yours for a reason! Think about it like you do your fiance

bridetobe71412

ps - what's your dress!?!?! Are you sharing? I didn't want to tell anyone for a while but then I couldn't NOT tell people so now almost everyone has seen it!

BmoreBride311

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[QUOTE]ps - what's your dress!?!?! Are you sharing? <strong>I didn't want to tell anyone for a while but then I couldn't NOT tell people so now almost everyone has seen it!
</strong>Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]

Haha me too! I was even paranoid to post a pic of it on here at first. I was worried my FI would stumble across it somehow. But then I calmed down and realized that's pretty far fetched, so now I post it anytime someone starts a dress thread, and all my BMs and close friends have seen pics, too.

bridetobe71412

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: is it normal to.... : Haha me too! I was even paranoid to post a pic of it on here at first. I was worried my FI would stumble across it somehow. But then I calmed down and realized that's pretty far fetched, so now I post it anytime someone starts a dress thread, and all my BMs and close friends have seen pics, too.
Posted by BmoreBride311[/QUOTE]

Isn't it funny?! I can't believe how secretive I was about it at the beginning...my maid of honor, mother  and grandmother were the only ones who had seen it, and then all of a sudden, EVERYONE has seen it! But only those three have seen it on me, at least. :)

Amanda1443994

I think its totally normal. I did the same thing for so long. I picked out and ordered my dress back in April of 2011 and then I kept second guessing it. I loved the way the dress looked on me, but I didn't like it at all seeing it online on the model! So I was very relieved when it came in and I loved it all over again. I also had to stop myself from looking at other dresses online because it made me second guess myself even more.

butterflyjumper1

thanks for the feedback, ladies!!! you are all right, i chose the dress for a reason and loved the way it looked on me....plus, my seamstress is an absolute WHIZ and is adding on a one-shoulder floral strap for me, and converting the bustline to a sweetheart top so it will be a little "softer".

the one thing my fiance said to me before i went dress shopping was "i really like it when you wear things that only have one shoulder strap on them." so i had to go with that, of course

here is my dress that i am so nervous about!!

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i have been so secretive about it so far that the only people who have seen it are my parents and my MOH!

ginadog

Yes, pretty normal (well for me!).  Try not to look at it online any more!

bridetobe71412

I LOVE YOUR DRESS!!! Thank you for sharing!

(My fiance said he doesn't like strapless dresses. Too bad )

Elinetrouwt

It's gorgeous!!!

In the shop, there were two dresses that I really liked, and I can't forget about the other one. And sometimes I think about the kind of dress I wanted, and that I didn't pick. My dress has massive layers of tulle, and I wanted to keep the whole wedding pretty informal and down-to-earth. But now I feel it has suddenly become a way more formal deal, all because of this dress. And I hate the picture on the site. So, I just took another look at the picture we took in the shop, and that one is gorgeous!

And I never understood those ladies here with second thoughts

Madisonpenny

I was doing the same thing, and then I finally put my dress back on... and knew I had made the right choice.

AllyG303

It's beautiful!  And yes, it's normal.  I hate the pictures of my dresses in magazines and whatnot, but love it when it's on me!

mandctaft

Yep! I think 99% of brides go through second thoughts about their dress.

Nati05

Are you kidding?! Your dress is beautiful! I looove it!

It is normal to second guess from time to time, but don't let it take over you. Remember why you chose it and everything will be fine.

butterflyjumper1

thank you ladies for making me feel better and more normal i think part of my problem was also that i tried on my dress as part of a trunk show of dresses that came right off of the runway....the dress that i tried on was a size 6.....although i am a 6 in real life, i am nowhere near a 6 in wedding dress world, and it was SO TIGHT and the corset didn't close all the way! so hopefully seeing it with my alterations and in my size will be a different story