Rental House Dilema...

mandafite821

So far my wedding planning has gone very well, except who I am going to invite to stay in the rental house.  This might take awhile to explain.  My fiance and I are renting a 7 bedroom event home to host the wedding and reception.  It rents Monday to Monday.  My fiance and I are paying for part of it, and then his parents are giving us money for it, and my parents are giving us money towards it.  So naturally that takes up 3 bedrooms right there.  He has a brother , sister-in-law and nephew, so we figured they would take a 4th room.  I have a brother, his girlfriend, and my nephew, they they would take up the 5th room.  

I have 2 extra bedrooms.  I figured I would use them for the rest of our wedding party.  My best friend (matron/maid of honor) are coming down for the entire week, so I figure they would take a 6th room.  My other bride's maid can't come till midweek, but I figured she could take the 7th room or sleep on the couch.  Owen's brother is in his party, so they have a room already.  His best man is in school, so he can't come down till friday and will probably leave on Sunday.  We figured the BM and his g/f could either take a couch, or use the 7th bedroom.  

I talked to my mom today, and she told me that she had asked my grandparents to get there own place for the week.  Well my mom thinks my granny is upset that we aren't getting married in town.  My grandpa is excited about going to the outer banks, but granny, not so much.  Granny is worried about the drive down there (it is a 7 hour drive from charlotte), and her feelings are hurt that we didn't invite them to stay in the house with us. On top of that, my dead-beat uncle lives in their house with them, so naturally if he comes to the wedding, he will have to stay with them, and I don't want him in the rental house with me for a week, b/c he will drive me crazy!!!

So what should I do?  Should I invite my grandparents to stay with me or should I invite the rest of my wedding party to stay with me?  

jlbmousie

It is a difficult situation, but I say do what makes you and your fiance happy.  You both want the day to be wonderful and you don't need anymore added stress. 

If your grandmother is worried about the drive is there another family member or close friend that could help with the drive to the OBX.  Also, how close are your grandparents going to be staying to the rental house?  If they are close they can still be part of the planning and the activities.  If they get tired or need to get away from all the stress and  last minute activities they will have their own place to go to when they want to. 

ldybug78

I personally would have my bridal party stay in the house and not the grandparents.  I would hate to have to be quiet early at night bc the grandparents are sleeping.  I think they will be happier too if they are somewhere else like jlbmousie mentioned above- they can get some quiet time if they want it. 
I've come to realize from planning my wedding that some people just want to complain, especially if they haven't been there or if you are doing anything other than the normal wedding at home.  Your grandma will come around. Just keep telling her you know its a lot for her to travel and how much you appreciate it- and remind her it'll be worth it. 

Krhoy20

We are also renting a house and having the ceremony.reception there. We have a 7bdrm as well!!!
Since my parents are paying for the house, I didn't feeel right telling them who could and couldn't stay with us. Luckily, we agreed on who would...We have my grandparents, Aunt, Cousin w. her 2 girls, Another cousin w. his gf, a great aunt, my 2 brothers w. their gf's, my parents, us, and my dads friend!!!! We are a pretty close family so it should be fun.
Since we are getting married on Tuesday, our house rents sat-sat, almost everyone will be leaving to head home on Wednesday. The rest of the week, we will have the house to ourselves with my parents!! ha
Invite who you will be most comfortable with. You can't make everyone happy, someone will always have something to complain about.

tcigal

I agree with everyone above: have who YOU want at the house, and everyone else will come around.  I had a bit of the same dilema because the plan was to have immedate family and wedding party; we had extra, but not enough for all the grandparents.  Luckily my mom's fmaily is so big (and my grandparents can afford to help out) so they got their own house very close by.  I have promised my mom and Grandma I will sketch out specific time to spend with JUST them away from the busy-ness.  My fiancee's grandparents will be staying with us; which is causing one of my only remaining sources of stress, trying to iron out where everyone will stay, but luckily they're laid back and appreciative so I'm sure it will be okay!  I decided it was more important to have our wedding party there, and my mom assured me her family would be okay with that.  Like someone mentioned, in the end, I think they'll be very happy to have their own "retreat" when things get hectic at our house.

Valetta09

This will work out...

This is why we have rented an oceanfront for the wedding, etc. and another house directly across the street to serve as the quieter "retreat". Best of luck!