So my MOH and I are/were extremely close! We were like sisters and spent a lot of time together. She found out around april or so that she was pregnant. Awesome. I was more than ecstatic for her. And had no concerns for the wedding. Since day one I have told her we would work it out. Well she is set to have a c-section exactly one month before my wedding. Wonderful news.
So recently she has been very distant. Hasn't been talking to me as often and seems distant and busy with other things in life. I understand she has a life outside of me. she told me that she had to push away from me due to her concern for her baby. when her pregnancy began i was extremely involved. and now it seems as if she doesn't want me to be involved in any concern. she never tells me about how her appt are or anything anymore. So I haven't been talking wedding with her or really anything. The other day I confronted her about BM dresses. Which need to be ordered soon. Well she told me that she absolutely could not order the dresses by the deadline. Since she is ordering 3. one for her and one for her husbands daughters. So I simply offered to help them with the expenses even though they have known for 6 months which dresses and when they needed to be ordered. When I offered to put for money towards the dresses a massive conversation happened. And basically she told me if she knew her life would turn out this way she never would have committed to being my MOH. She told me she felt as if she was letting me down and hurting me more than being happy. So i told her if she felt as if she could not be there for me in the wedding i would understand. Though she told me she wants to be there. but her main concern is whether she will make it down the aisle. I again assured her that, that was not a concern and we would work it out, it was her choice based upon her stress level. so she basically said she would stay in the wedding but felt i was expecting a lot of her. i told her i don't expect anything. basically her support and friendship. and she agreed to give me that. tho since the day she seems even more distant. i can't even seem to get in contact with her.
i dont really need advice. or anything. just yalls thoughts and feelings toward this and what you think i should do. if anything.!!!