I am in the process of buying my bridesmaides/maid of honor gifts but I am stuck at a standstill because one of my bridesmaids (my FSIL) has not helped me out or offered to do anything for me. She never even asks me how the planning is going. If I bring up the wedding she just complains that she has more weight to loose before then. Her daughters are the flower girls and her son is the ring barer and I thought it would be nice for her to be in the wedding as well. When I asked her she was thrilled now I just don't know how she feels. It's almost like it's just stressing her out.
My question is does she deserve the same gifts as my other two girls? The other girls have gone far and beyond to help me. One is planning my bridal shower the other is planning my bachelorette party and has gone with me to several appointments. I am giving the girls Coach wristlets, Coach umbrellas, and pearl necklaces.