FI and I had to go to pre-cana for the Catholic Church. For those of you not familiar with pre-cana, it's marriage preparation that you must complete before getting married in the church. You can do meetings with your priest or a one day event. We chose the Engaged Encounter Weekend. It was at an old convent and we were assigned a roommate of the same sex. We were not allowed to leave once we arrived and all the meals were provided for us.
We arrived at 7:30 on Friday evening and left at 2pm today (Sunday). We were given an iternary and boy was it jammed packed. There were 12 other couples there. We had to listen to the junior couple, the preist, and the senior couple, write in our notebook, and then share what we wrote with our FI in a private room. We also had mass twice and other large group activites. The junior couple were in their 6th year of marriage and the senior couple are in their 45th! They spoke about the topics and gave us their life experiences. The priest was very down to earth and very easy to listen to. When it came time to writing, we had questions we had to follow. I prefer to write (I was a litearature major) so it was easy for me.
Since we communicated about so much, I found out that fi is upset that I do not show him enough affection. He is also upset that I spend a lot of time on the computer rather then cuddling with him on the couch. Also, he expressed how he needs me to stop yelling so much. He comes from a very quiet family and he is not used to a loud house. (I came from a very loud Italian house). I told him I would work on both areas. I also told him some of my concerns with him and he assured me he'd work on them. We felt great to get that all out in the open.
I did a lot of crying over the weekend. I felt overwhelmed with emotions. When I wrote about my love for my Fi I cried. When I read what he wrote I cried. When we prayed together, I cried very hard. I'm not even sure why I was so emotional. I guess part of it was because I am so happy to be marrying my fi. He is everything I ever hoped for and I feel so lucky!