Hi everyone! I need some advice. I'm getting married at the Civic Club of Harrisburg in october. We were originally going to be inviting 98 people but then due to a death in the family, I ended up spending time with other family members that I wasn't planning on inviting and the wedding was brought up and all of a sudden, our guest list was up to 118. The Civic Club is not a large venue and 118 is pushing it. I'm at the point where I actually hope that some people won't be able to make it! I know, that's terrible. The thing is, I have this huge italian family. We are inviting my first cousins and my fathers first cousins as well as my great aunts and uncles, and of course friends and super close family (aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc). I feel weird about this considering the generation that I have to invite is my dads generation when I would really rather be inviting my generation(my 2nd cousins). However, it's too late now. My question is this: Do you think it would be a good idea to have some sort of brunch/lunch/get together for apps and drinks somewhere the day after the wedding?(the wedding is on a friday) This get together would be for our parents, immediate family, plus those members of my family that won't be invited but that I would still love to see. Is this common? Would those people get offended that they weren't invited to the wedding but just to a day after get together? (keep in mind that I'm probably blowing this way out of proportion and none of them will actually be offended..I hope) If I do set up a get together, what would I say and what should the details be, i.e, who pays, where, etc..
Sorry for rambling..thanks to anyone who can help me out! =]