Maybe I'm just feeling in a funk about things right now because, despite our compromise that our wedding will not be as big as fiance initially wanted, I still feel like it's not worth it to spend all that money just on one day, even if it is a special day. I'm liking the way my savings account is looking now and I'm cringing at the hit it's going to take when we finish paying our final deposits. I even asked fiance this morning, "Flowers are going to be outrageous, why do we need more than the bride's bouquet and groom's boutonniere that the venue gives us?" to which fiance took offense rather than treating it as a reasonable question, even if flowers were important to him.
So I started thinking... I've always felt it was unfair that in order to avoid WWIII within his family I had to ask his sister to stand in the wedding. I completely agree with the ladies who would say I should ask who is close to me and she can stand on the groom's side to support him, but fiance is ultra-traditional and wouldn't hear of it. I think I'd feel differently if I had a brother and fiance reciprocated with my brother standing on his side, but I don't. I've got nothing against his sister and we're friendly with each other, but we're not friends where I would call her to chat or hang out, and I wouldn't have her standing on my side if fiance hadn't insisted. Would I be acting like a brat to suggest to fiance that, since he wants his sister to stand in the wedding and she is there for him, not me, he should cover the cost of her flowers and bridesmaid gift?
Whoever said it was supposed to be happily ever after is a big fat liar.