rsvp date??? wording??

shaunaceyh

hello ladies,
I'm working on our invites for our June 1st wedding. It's a Friday so I'm hoping to get the invites out WAY ahead of time. Anyways, not sure what to put the rsvp date by. Is April 15 too early???
I am hoping to get the invites out by March 1st.
Clearly this is the first time I've done this - are my times completely off???

Also is this wording okay?

BRIDE and GROOM

Together With Their Parents

Invite You To share in Their Happiness

As They Unite in Marriage

Friday June First

Four Fourty-Five in the Afternoon

gammaykella

I think you can put whatever RSVP date you like. I've seen invitations with an RSVP 2 weeks before the wedding. But for me personallly, I felt that I needed to know my numbers well in advance to book other things. I mailed invitations 3 months before the wedding and had them RSVP 2 months before the wedding. 

Jewel224

April 15th is a bit early to RSVP.  I'd say more like May 15th, but this should also depend on when your venue/caterer needs firm numbers.  If they need the numbers 2 weeks before the wedding, then you set the RSVP 3-4 weeks before it to give you the week or 2 to call people who haven't RSVPd.

ETA:  The wording you've given is fine!

agnes16

dont forget friday june first "two thousand and ____"

i agree with jewel about the rsvp date

shaunaceyh

thanks for all the help!

petite+engineer

If you want to hold off sending the invites, you could send out Save the Dates now. That way people know about the date and can plan. 

This actually gives you more flexibility. If you find that you want to add some people, they won't find out that they were on the "second list", becuase of the staggering of the invitations. I'm sending my invites next week, and I still have some maybes on my list. My guest list has changed a lot in the past week alone, and my wedding is less than 2 months away.

gananoque

I think the March 1st send-out date is fine.

But I would make the RSVP date a little closer to the wedding. Just because people's plans might change. You want them to really know whether or not they can make it by the time they reply to you, y'know? I would make that date May 1st. Much later than that, however, and you start to create problems for yourself.

Because as every bride learns, there are ALWAYS guests who simply never reply. I know. Annoying! But every bride has to track down guests to see if they're coming. You don't want to have to scramble to do this. Also, if anyone needs to book a hotel room, they're likely going to have to reserve their room about a month in advance anyway, so this is a good benchmark to use.