not sure...

msange727

do any of you know if the catholic church would have a problem with me walking solo down the aisle? long story short, i don't speak to my dad, and i would feel weird having my mom do it (no brothers, all my uncles are on his side, no boy cousins, etc.). also, i kind-of feel like it should be me giving myself away, and not that i am being given by a parent or man, so i'm liking the idea. anyone run into an issue with this?

mbcdefg

I've attended Catholic weddings where the bride walked alone, and nobody batted an eye.

I can't imagine why they'd demand that you have an escort ... seems pretty counter-productive to their message to force you into picking an escort (or someone to "give you away" - do Catholic churches even view it that way anymore? I don't think I've ever heard the, "Who gives this woman in marriage?" line at a wedding, Catholic or not) that you don't really want.

I believe a lot of churches actually encourage the bride and groom to walk in together nowadays, to show that you are entering into the Sacrament together as willing equals. That's another option if you would rather not walk alone.

berrytr

Nope, not an issue.  Just let your priest know.  That's it.

meltoine

The Catholic Church has never recommended that you walk with a male escort.

The Rite of Marriage says that the bride and groom should walk in together. Until recent years, this was all that was allowed. Now that pop culture has given everyone the idea of walking with their dad (a Protestant custom) the Church has begun allowing people to walk with their dads or other escorts. 

Lali4182

nope, that shouldn't be a problem

akg0053

I'm having the same debate. Probably going to walk down alone. Nobody has told me no at all and everbody is clear about my intentions so I don't think it's a problem.

Calypso1977

i cant see why they'd have an issue.
i walked with my husband.  i didnt like the idea of being given away either.  i liked the idea of approaching the altar together with my husband (of course, FI at the time)

agapecarrie

The church does not believe in "giving away". Marriage must be a free choice, freely entered into without reservation. As someone pointed out, the father escorting the bride is a recent innovation that the church allows as a concession.

baystateapple

Everything Carrie just said.  You're making the decision on your own, not being given away by your parents.  Choosing to have your father walk you down the aisle is a traditional ritual, not a religious one.  Walk by yourself if you want to.