I don't normally write on this board, but I stalk y'all all the time. I had kind of an issue the other day with my FMIL. I need to give some background so please excuse this. We are Catholic Indian (you know the whole St. Thomas came to Indian converted people, well this is us), we fall in two different Roman Catholic rites, Malabar and Malankara. I'm Malankara and FIs family is Malabar. It's similar, but the Malabar right has more of the Eastern traditions. Either way when I picture my wedding I always wanted the Malankara wedding ceremony and mass. Since it's long and as a compromise FI and I agreed to do Malankara Ceremony with normal Latin Mass.
I'm ok with this until I went over to the ILs house the other day and his mom keep "thinking" we were having Malabar Wedding Ceremony. After correcting her a few times (she had brain surgery so I assumed it was memory lapse) FI told me he didn't think it was her forgetting but wanting it in the other rite.
He told me he won't go againist his mother. I don't expect him to, but what do I do? I know the whole it's my wedding, but honestly does anyone really believe that?? How do I express it to him and his mother without making myself look like bridezilla or anything?
It may seem petty, but it really is important to me.