Hi, My fiancee and I are thinking of getting married at the courthouse in 2012 for many reasons: insurance, taxes, sick of family wedding drama........We have already sent out save the dates for our catholic ceremony and reception (huge and $$$) in april 2013. We cant just cancel it because I want a big wedding and also people have booked flights, deposits are paid, etc... has anyone done this? I know we can still have the catholic blessing of our marriage which is similar to the original ceremony but how would guests feel if they knew we were already technically married? should we keep it a secret and just have our family know? our priest said he could have a private ceremony for us this year if we wanted then do the blessing next year....but im concerned people may be upset we were already married? what are everyones thoughts ? thanks so much.