Formal interview

Amivy06

Part of our marriage prep includes doing a formal interview with the priest. FI is a little anxious about it. What kinds of questions will the priest ask?

[Deleted User]

There is no reason to be nervous. Just be honest with him. He is there to help you get your marriage off to a great start.

Our priest back home started our pre-cana, and he already knew us well. Our priest here finished it and basically, he just talked about our living situation, we took the FOCCUS test, and talked about any issues we thought we may have problems with.

Calypso1977

they basically ask if youre marrying of free will, verify your baptism/confirmation records, ask if its your first marriage, gather your address information, inquire about who your witnesses will be amd general housekeeping things pertaining to the wedding.  our priest also set our date with us at this meeting.

Amivy06

Thanks ladies! That's what I thought, but FI was worried that the priest would be asking deeply personal questions. FI is not the kind of guy willing to openly discuss very personal things.

Calypso1977

the only thing personal tehy may ask is your living situation.  if  you are living together, be prepared to disclose that information and handle wherever it may take you.

LisaC210

Thanks Calypso1977!! This definitely put us at ease as well!

kgrunow

I was asked if I was fertile and my FI was asked if he was impotent. They also asked if we had even been treated for mental illness/depression. And we didn't know this ahead of time but they separate you for the interview. That was the most unnerving part because it was unexpected.

We were also asked what we though marriage was and the difference between marriage in the Catholic Church and a marriage elsewhere (covenant vs contract). Though that could just be something my Uncle (the priest marrying us) did.

agapecarrie

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[QUOTE]I was asked if I was fertile and my FI was asked if he was impotent. They also asked if we had even been treated for mental illness/depression. And we didn't know this ahead of time but they separate you for the interview. That was the most unnerving part because it was unexpected. We were also asked what we though marriage was and the difference between marriage in the Catholic Church and a marriage elsewhere (covenant vs contract). Though that could just be something my Uncle (the priest marrying us) did.
Posted by kgrunow[/QUOTE]

I just want to clarify something on this, for those that might misunderstand why certain questions are asked..

A woman who may be infertile can still enter into a valid marriage... this particular question is more part of the "open to children" mindset.

The impotency question has to do with making sure the couple can consumnate the marriage. A permanently impotent man cannot.