So, I keep reading on these knot columns and etiquette sites that it is rude to make your ceremony take longer than thirty minutes. This advice irritates me for obvious reasons. Clearly, I am not going to sacrifice the most important part of the day, the ceremony, for some retarded etiquette rule. But, it got me thinking who comes up with this and decided it was rude in the first place? Did they ever think it was rude to expect people to compromise their own wedding vows and wedding ceremony for convenience of guests getting too bored?
Also, when my parents had their 25th wedding anniversary, they had a very nice vow renewal and a party to celebrate. They hired a choir and chose some beautiful music for the choir to sing and the priest nixed a bunch of it because he said it would make the ceremony too long and people would get restless. I find this strange. Since when is coming to church about being entertained and getting your worship done as fast as possible? I think music, especially the sacred music my parents chose, is an important part of worship and prayer and should not be thought of as something to 'get over with". The same goes for the ceremony.
what are all of your thoughts on these "rules" about length of ceremony? Would you feel differently if it was a very long ceremony for a religion you were unfamiliar with?