Asking godparents

ring_pop

When is it appropriate to ask people to be godparents for our child?

I'm about 6 months along. Is it OK to do it now? Or wait until the child is born?

We're thinking that we'll probably have the baptism in the fall, maybe October or so. But we already know who we want to ask.

DH is a planner...

mcdol3

I've only ever been asked after the baby is born. I think that is most common.

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While I can't speak from experience (b/c I have never been asked to be a godparent), I would think that it would be perfectly fine to ask at this point. That way the person(s) can have time to think about it and you have someone in place so that you can make the baptismal plans with the church.

I know this is sort of off topic, but when the time comes for H and I to have kids, we have no idea who we are going to ask. While some of our family members are Catholic, they aren't really practicing. But I do have a slight feeling we or I might be asked for my friend and his wife's baby as she is due in September.

mica178

I was asked after my godson was born.  My BIL/SIL are deciding right now, and their son has already been born.  I'm not sure if it's a superstition thing or what.

Calypso1977

i would ask now.
you may also feel differently, and want to do the baptism sooner than october.  this way, youll have folks on board ready to go.

clearheavens

Since your baby is going to be a little older, I feel like waiting just a few more months is better, since the godparents would be waiting around for six months.  That seems kind of long.  But you also couldn't go wrong if you asked now, especially if you are absolutely sure on your choice of godparents.

I know that was a wishy washy answer.

agapecarrie

My sister was working on adopting children from Russia. As soon as they were accepted into the program, she told me she wanted me to be Godmother to a child they might adopt there. This was over a year before thye finally ended up adopting Nick. They didn't even know who would be their kids or how many they would get yet. I starting praying for him immediately.

I think the sooner the better. Your kid already has a guardian angel right now. The Godparents can be praying for him.

BrideBling82

My future- SIL already asked FI and I  to be godparents and she's about 5 months along. Ooops I forgot to mention she asked us when she found out she was pregnant in January. When I talked to my mom about this she said "back in the day" the pregnant woman just waited for someone to ask her to be the Godparents...and usually it was family. Hope this helps

gwendolynclare

What agape said and for the same reasons!  We waited to ask our baby's godparents, but only because we had trouble deciding who to ask.  We're lucky to have enough amazing people in our lives that were praying for her anyway.  But if my DH and I would have known who to ask as soon as we found out we were pregnant, we probably would have asked right then.

Also, a little off topic, but be sure to stress that it's not just an honor, but a responsibility.  Give them time to decline the role if they're not sure they can meet your expectations as godparents.

dora12

Hey ringy,
DH and I actually got asked to be godparents of our friend's baby before she was even born. At first I thought it was odd but it made sense later since they knew for sure they wanted us no matter what.
I guess it all comes down with what you feel comfortable with.

ring_pop

Hi dora! Nice to see you here!

ootmother2

My sister asked me to be the godmother of her first child, probably around the 6month of her pregnancy.

I am a total failure!  My godson was diagnosed manic bipolar at 15 and a 29 has totally refused treatment and is now pretty much a hard core heroin addict.

So don't ask me to to be the godmother!!