Catholic Officiant

futuremrsmueller12

Please help if you have any referrals... Our Church wont allow our father to come and do it outside of the church & and they won't allow my fiance and I to marry in the church since he's not Catholic...

Do you know any Catholic Officiants that are willing to do a catholic ceremony outside of the church (Southern California-La Habra area)?! TIA

agapecarrie

Your fiance does not have to be Catholic to marry in the church.

marrying outside the church carries grave consequences. This would not be a valid marriage. A Catholic can no longer participate in the sacraments.

SaraAndrew2010

OP, the Church does allow outdoor Catholic weddings.  You are not going to be able to find a Catholic church or priest that will allow you to get married outside. 

Your FI does not need to be Catholic to be married in the Catholic church.  Since is not Catholic you have two choices: get married in a Catholic church (most likely without a mass) or get married in your FI's house of worship (this will require a dispensation).

You may find this website helpful for questions about Catholic weddings:
www.catholicweddinghelp.com

mica178

Ditto the previous posters.  Have you already spoken with your priest?  What reason did he give for not marrying you in the church?  I have heard of priests declining to marry a couple for various reasons, for example if the non-Catholic states that he will not agree to allow the children to be raised as Catholic.  If that's the case, then you're going to have to talk with your FI about your goals and wishes before you figure out where to get married.

Calypso1977

ditto others.  you will be hard, hard pressed to find any priest who will marry you outside.  it just isnt done.  marriage is considered a sacrament. 

i believe a priest can deny marriage to a "mixed marriage" couple if he personally feels that the marriage would be a detriment to teh catholic.  however, the church as a whole does not forbid the marriage of a catholic and non-catholic.  so perhaps the one priest you spoke wtih doesnt feel comfortable marrying you.  that is his choice, but you should be able to find another one who will.

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Ditto pp's.

Can you join another church in the dioceses and start going there? And then talk to the priest there about your situation and see if he will marry you guys?

SoHappyToBeMrsC

What reasons did the priest give? DId he state it was solely because your FI is not Catholic? If so, that's not right, as the church allows this. I would go to a different church in your diocese to find a more open minded priest.

If you don't care about getting married in the church, but just want the appearance of a priest, you can google "rent a priest" and see if there is one in your area, but I have to stress this would not be considered a valid Catholic wedding in the eyes of the church, and it is not a Sacrament.