Does anyone have a good resource for explaining that the unity candle is not a Catholic tradition? A quick Google search gives me the same article over and over on different websites.
My FMIL is apparently convinced that is it very Catholic and that our wedding must have one. I, however, know that they aren't part of the Catholic tradition, are a new trend and think we're already going to have enough "stuff" at our wedding (well, mass + presentation to Mary), that we really don't need more. My parish allows its use, if we want it, so I don't have "not allowed" to fall back on. I just really don't want it.
I don't want it to be a me v. her thing. I'd rather have a document or something authoritative to show her when it comes up.