Blusher veil for the ceremony

CaylaSummer

Hi ladies,

Since I'm getting married in a Catholic Church, Im curious if I need to wear a veil that has a blusher. Am I suppose to have my face covered as I walk down the aisle then have it lifted when I get to the front? I have no idea whether people still do this or not.

Thanks

mica178

I did not wear a blusher.   I do not believe the lifting of the veil is a Catholic tradition as the mantilla does not have a blusher but is very traditional in Spanish and Hispanic weddings.

Calypso1977

blushers are not required....i have only seen one worn in very reason years...that was at a canadian/anglican wedding.  no clue if she wore it for cultural/religous reasons or style.

catarntina

I wore one to my wedding only because I wanted to.  It's not required.

CaylaSummer

I sort of like the lifting of the veil but I thought it might be weird to do it since it isnt really a catholic tradition

agapecarrie

The lifting of the veil is symbolic of the consumnation. If it is lifted, it should be after the vows by the husband. Not by dad.

CaylaSummer

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_blusher-veil-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:615Discussion:7aeb0b57-f4d9-4404-a983-e711682a857dPost:a4a98018-2cb5-4ac2-b627-21d4944e2919">Re: Blusher veil for the ceremony</a>:
[QUOTE]The lifting of the veil is symbolic of the consumnation. If it is lifted, it should be after the vows by the husband. Not by dad.
Posted by agapecarrie[/QUOTE]

LOL..I see. yeah that might be a bit weird since my FI and have been living together for the last three years.

I guess that would mean that I have to cover my face until the vows. I have no clue what to expect. I mean I have an idea of the flow of the ceremony (no mass for us) but in terms of the little details no clue. I thought you don't say your vows in the church. I thought that the priest just ask 'do you take (name) to be your beloved..." is that the vow part?

agapecarrie

The vows happen after the readings and homily.

There are 3 options for saying them, some priests pick the option:

-Repeating the priest
-Memorized
-answering "I do"

Calypso1977

is it bad that i honestly cant remember what we did?  we might have repeated the priest...but seriously, i cant remember....and its been less than 2 years... wow

catarntina

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_blusher-veil-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:615Discussion:7aeb0b57-f4d9-4404-a983-e711682a857dPost:a4a98018-2cb5-4ac2-b627-21d4944e2919">Re: Blusher veil for the ceremony</a>:
[QUOTE]The lifting of the veil is symbolic of the consumnation. If it is lifted, it should be after the vows by the husband. Not by dad.
Posted by agapecarrie[/QUOTE]

That's really interesting.  My priest specifically told my dad to lift it... Like didn't even give me a choice.

Hope61

All the Catholic weddings I remember going to, the bride wore a blusher and her dad lifted it at the end of the aisle. At my wedding, I'm not, simply because it didn't work with the style of veil that I'm wearing. I checked with both dad and FI to make sure they were ok with me not doing that tradition before I bought the veil.

As the wedding veil did not originate as a Catholic tradition, there's not any "right" way to do it. I've never heard of it being symbolic of the consummation, but I think it would be a nice way to do it. I also like the idea of dad lifting it, though.

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Yeah, blushers are pretty much optional. I wore a blusher bc I am pretty traditional and a girly girl like that. I had always envisioned my Dad flipping it back to reveal me to my husband to me. I loved it and wouldn't have changed anything.

If you don't want one or don't like them, there are plenty of other options to consider.

2Bwed2011

I am not doing a blusher - I want people to see my face as I walk down the aisle!  But I can see how people would enjoy that tradition.  It's just not for me.  And whenever I think about it I think of the scene from "Sixteen Candles" when the sister is high on PMS meds and is walking down the aisle, gets frustrated with it touching her face, takes it off and throws it into the flower arrangement!  It cracks me up every time!  So, it's totally optional and not a requirement of the church.  Not my church at least.  Our priest has not given us any rules as far as attire or things like that.