FI's father is a deacon in South Carolina. FI and I are getting married in my hometown in Michigan. (FI and I live in VA) FI always wanted his father to perform his wedding. I wasn't so keen on the idea at first (before I started to like FFIL) but the idea and FFIL have "grown" on me and I think it would mean a lot FI and his dad.
But FI and I just realized that since we are both Catholic and plan on having a full mass, we will need I priest for the consecration (as I understand it, that's the only thing a deacon can't do). It would have been different if FI had chosen to marry a non-Catholic bride, thus no nuptial mass, no consecration, and FFIL could do the whole ceremony.
I know I have to look into or ask the MI priest about the legal aspect of it. FFIL might have to get licensed in MI. But FI and I aren't sure if it's silly and superfluous to have his dad participate in the mass as a deacon when FFIL won't be "helping" the priest very much?
FI is going to ask his dad about it and I've got a call into the priest at the church I grew up in (I don't actually know him, the priest I grew up with has retired since I moved out of MI), but he hasn't called back yet and I was just wondering if there are any additional factors I should consider?