It's been quite some time since I've been on here but I'm needing some advice. Its been a very rough summer for me and my fiance. To say it nicely, our engagement hasn't been what either of us really wanted and it seems like every time we turn around there is a new test awaiting us. My fiance, Andy, was in a car accident earlier this summer and had to buy a new car, which was our first major unexpected expense. He handled it well even though he was very unhappy about settling back into car payments since his other car had been paid off. We continued to buy all the furniture we'd need for our new home together and my parents even gave us an extremely nice living room set so that we wouldnt have to worry about it. We were so excited. We put everything into storage and went on our way. We found out nearly three weeks after it happened that someone had stolen everything we owned out of our storage unit in town. We had nothing left. Andy took the money we were going to use for our honeymoon, all the bonuses he'd saved up, and used it to buy new furniture to set us back on track. A decision we made togther and it was very hard.
Sometimes, I feel so useless. Andy makes more money than I do because I"m in school and working only part time until I finish. Nearly everything rests on his shoulders. Everyone keeps telling me that that's how it's supposed to be, that that's the man's job....but this is our life together and I want to help him as much as I can. Andy says he doesn't mind making ends meet until that extra income my job will bring in but I can tell this summer has knocked him down. I just don't know what I can do for him, for us. There is still so much to figure out. The next biggest step is finding a place of our own. Should we rent or buy until I"m done with school? There are just so many twists and turns and it seems like every time we make a few steps forward something knocks us back to square one.
I don't question the love I share with Andy. I believe in him and I know he'll make this all work somehow. I've seen what he is capable of when it comes to taking care of and protecting those he loves. He's a good man but he's so used to being independent that he forgets he's not in this alone sometimes. How can I help him? Is anyone else having these problems? I don't know, I'm just running ragged and I need some help. Will the tests ever end? Are we alone in our struggles to starting our new life together?