Hi there. My FI and I are planning to meet with our priest in the next few weeks. Are there any specific questions we should ask while there? We have never met him before because we are getting married close to two hours away.
he will most likely confirm that your info is correct on your baptismal records (if you had them sent ahead).
we tehn filled out an informational form. he tehn met with each of us separately to confirm we were entering marriage freely.
he then let us set a date for the wedding and the rehearsal. i then asked few questions about the mass, altar servers, fees, etc. it was done i think within an hour.
definteily ask about attire (i.e., is strapless ok if you want to wear a strapless gown). also ask about children in the ceremony if that's somethign you want - a few people i know (IRL and on boards) were told no kids in the ceremony.
some stuff he might answer, some things he might defer to the secretary.
You may want to ask things about real or fake flowers. Candles and other decor. What they allow. I asked my church because our florist had said it had been a problem at some churches. If you are just settling on the date you probably are a ways off from thinking about flowers and decor.
Are you meeting with the priest who will handle your marriage preparation? The priest at the parish where you will be married? Are these the same person?
If so, I would make sure that you get detailed information about what will be expected for marriage prep and what the time frame is. If you have not already set a date, ask what the time frame is for doing so.
I would ask about who the best person is to ask questions about attire, decore, etc. At some parishes, there is a wedding coordinator who can handle these more readily than trying to bounce things off the priest (who has a million other things to do). You will also want to find out what you will need to provide in terms of altar servers, etc.
Finally, I would ask who the best person is to consult about music and what those requirements are.
Re: questions for the priest
we tehn filled out an informational form. he tehn met with each of us separately to confirm we were entering marriage freely.
he then let us set a date for the wedding and the rehearsal. i then asked few questions about the mass, altar servers, fees, etc. it was done i think within an hour.
definteily ask about attire (i.e., is strapless ok if you want to wear a strapless gown). also ask about children in the ceremony if that's somethign you want - a few people i know (IRL and on boards) were told no kids in the ceremony.
some stuff he might answer, some things he might defer to the secretary.
If so, I would make sure that you get detailed information about what will be expected for marriage prep and what the time frame is. If you have not already set a date, ask what the time frame is for doing so.
I would ask about who the best person is to ask questions about attire, decore, etc. At some parishes, there is a wedding coordinator who can handle these more readily than trying to bounce things off the priest (who has a million other things to do). You will also want to find out what you will need to provide in terms of altar servers, etc.
Finally, I would ask who the best person is to consult about music and what those requirements are.