This post requires a bit of background here. I am Californian, was raised Presbyterian, and still follow it. My fiance is English, half Maltese half Scottish, and was raised Catholic. His parents were, if not still are (hard to tell sometimes) very Catholic, and in fact were shocked he was dating a Protestant when they first found out. (They have since become fine with this, and have secretly admitted to us that I'm the favorite of his and his four siblings' other halves). FI went to Catholic school his whole life, and says that he always thought that the Catholic church needed to reform in certain ways. When he first came to church with me, he said his thoughts were "wait... you already do all of that". He subsequently went through an existential crisis upon the realisation that he was actually, in terms of religious beliefs, Protestant. He still identifies as culturally Catholic, though plans to join the Presby church we have been attending (me for over five years, him when he was out visiting) when he finally moves.
As you may have guessed, our wedding will be in a Presbyterian church. This will be a huge deal for his family; among his mothers' side, of which he is one of the youngest cousins (and his mother's one of nine!), this will be the first wedding that is permitted in the Catholic church that will not take place in one. (There have been second weddings in registry offices). I've lurked on this forum before, and we have discussed things we have learned on here, such as him not being able to take Communion in a Catholic church, etc. He is fine with this, does not care. Any future children, we also plan to raise Presby.
However, here's the question. It is very important to his parents to have a priest involved in some way, whether it be to offer a blessing, a prayer, doesn't matter what role they just want one involved somehow if at all possible. We are willing to go along with this out of respect for them and the way that they raised him (also, not a hill we're willing to die on. Our wedding's already so multicultural weird we might as well add some more)
I have e-mailed a few local Catholic churches asking about this, asking if a priest would be willing to do this. I have not received a response from any. My question, is it at all likely or even permissible to have a Catholic priest do this? I know the Vatican's rules on marriage can be pretty strict, but I don't know anything about their policies on priests offering a prayer at a wedding that will not officially be recognised by the Church? Since I haven't gotten any replies to my inquiries, would it help to go talk to them in person? Since you gals here seem to know more than I can find out anywhere else, I figured this would be the place to ask. Thanks for the help.