Didn't send an invitation to the priest

leahwaz73

I know there was a recent post about sending an invitation to the priest. We didn't send a physical invite, but were just planning on asking him when we meet with him again. Is this bad form? My mother (who is 81) thought it was ok and said it was what we should do. He most likely won't come, as he is not very social, he is the only priest in the parish, and he will have to say the 5:00 mass (our wedding is at 2). I'm just not sure what to do. Our wedding is only 19 days away.

Riss91

I would hand deliver an invitation to him with the information. It doesn't have to match the ones you already sent - you could print up something nice on the computer. If it is easy enough to send him one of your invites and exclude the RSVP card, then I would do that!

bibliophile2010

If you have extras, I would definitely give him one without the RSVP card, in person if it is relatively soon. I would probably also include a hand-written note that say something about how you would love to have him come by, if he's able to.

My priest has actually talked to me about this (not in the context of our wedding -- we sent him an invite and would have even if he wasn't celebrating mass), and he's definitely insulted when people don't send him an invitation, and is especially annoyed when people do it assuming he has other things to do that day. Now, I'm not sure everyone is like that, but would you really want to risk it? Give your priest the chance to decline the invitation, rather than merely assume that he will.

newlyseliski

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_didnt-send-invitation-priest?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:615Discussion:c8fe9ef9-d9dd-4b5e-b98d-b221df60ce1aPost:4ee4e497-5f6c-467a-8231-1b03f1cfce1d">Re: Didn't send an invitation to the priest</a>:
[QUOTE]If you have extras, I would definitely give him one without the RSVP card, in person if it is relatively soon. I would probably also include a hand-written note that say something about how you would love to have him come by, if he's able to. [/QUOTE]

This!

shawna127

I definitely agree with the hand deliver, makes it more personal too )

Littlin

I would hand deliver it.  Our priest came to the reception, took some pictures, had a few beers - he had a great time!

OutOfTheBlue612

Definitely hand deliver an invite. Our priest had a blast at the reception. I danced with him a few times and turns out he's an excellent swing dancer. He stayed until like 11pm.