Communion: Did/Are you do both at your wedding?

mcdol3

How did you receive communion? Just curious
Blood, Body, Both?

Calypso1977

the latin doesnt usually offer both - at least the ones i've attended.

ive actually never taken the wine/blood.  ive never understood the necessity.

mica178

Since we're sort of on the topic, I grew up going to churches that did not offer wine usually.  I've attended some churches that have it, but I've only tried it a couple of times.  My main reason is this: I was taught not to chew the host.  I don't really like the idea of taking wine from a common cup if everyone's mouth is still full.  How do people manage with this?

(Sorry for the threadjack)

agapecarrie

there is no rubric against chewing the host.

Can I ask that the poll words be changed? It isn't wine and bread any longer, it is the body and blood,  or at least the host and cup.

Calypso1977

yes, i was always taught not to chew either.  i am troubled when i see people chomping down on it.

the germs is the biggest reason i avoid the cup.  but again, even one crumb of the host still has the same "god content" as the entire host and or a sip or gallon of the wine. so again, ive never understood the necessity of having both.

agapecarrie

There isn't a "neessity" to have both species. It is a fuller sign. No less divinity, not one or the other of body and blood, simply a fuller sign. The sign of the two is the fact that a body apart from blood is dead. The priest must consecrate both and consume both for the mass to be licit.

Catholics have sacraments, which are by design..."sensual" The engage the senses.... vestments should be "touchable", incense, music, etc.

It is completely allowed to chew the host, so no one needs to feel bad when they see it.

SaraAndrew2010

DH and I received both the body and blood at our wedding, but only offered hosts to the guests.  I actually would have prefered to offer both forms to our guests.  However, whenever we tried to pin down details of the ceremony with our priest before the wedding, he just kept on telling us we would work it out at the rehearsal.  The rehearsal ended up being fairly chaotic and the distribution of communion was one of the details that we didn't get pinned down. 

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H and I received both at our wedding.

And ditto agapecarrie on not needing to receive both the body and the blood in order for it to count as a sacrament.

bibliophile2010

I imagine that we will both receive both species at the wedding. Any mass I've been to at my parish and any mass I've attended with the priest who is celebrating has had both species.

IrishBrideND

We had both. I did not take the blood. I never have. I'm not comfortable with it.

ootmother2

I have never taken the blood either.  It wasn't offered when I was  very young and I even dislike anyone other than a priest handling the host.  Wine from a cup someone else has been sipping from?  Not in this life!

Might not be rational but that's it.

Kaye Smith

Our priest gave us the body and blood - but didn't offer wine to the guests. 

mcdol3

Thank you ladies!

Agapecarrie - I can't change the poll It won't let me for some reason. I did add the part above the poll though. I realized my mistake when I typed it.

crystal8503

I'm not sure what my FI is going to receive during the mass, but I'm going to only receive the blood because I am allergic to the body.  The wafer has wheat in it and we have discussed substituting the blood because I don't want to bring a gluten-free wafer into the ceremony - I'm not even sure the priest would bless it.

newlyseliski

Christ is fully present... body, blood, soul and divinity in either the body or blood at Eucharist!  I normally receive both, but either is the whole sacrament still.  We're just offering the body to guests, but both my FH and I will be receiving both.

mswood1977

At our parish for weddings they always do both for the priest and the bridal couple, they then only offer the body for everyone else at the wedding.  So this is what we did.

At non-wedding masses, my parish always offers both the body and precious blood, but I usually only receive the body as it really is only necessary to receive under one species.

mcdol3

I wasn't sure if we could do both for us and then the body for the guests. Thank you! Nice to hear how everyone else has/is having it at their wedding.

Calypso1977

The wafer has wheat in it and we have discussed substituting the blood because I don't want to bring a gluten-free wafer into the ceremony - I'm not even sure the priest would bless it.

doubtful.  i believe the host has to have a very specific make up.  there was a story a few years ago abotu a woman trying to sue the diocese because they wouldnt give her daughter a gluten free host (even though wine was offered). 

agapecarrie

There are gluten free hosts.... we have them at my parish. They are made with the correct materials...approved matter for the Eucharist.

bibliophile2010

They actually make approved gluten-free hosts. My parish has a special procedure for consecrating and distributing them to people who cannot have gluten, and I doubt that the priests at my church would do it if it were totally impermissible.

That said, I repeat what others have said in that receiving either species is "complete" and there is no reason to feel compelled to take both, if both are offered.

bel138

The body and blood are combined in ours. I never know the right word for it. So obviously we and our guests got both.

A question for those of you who do not take the blood: Would you take Communion in an eastern church? The priest is very careful about not letting the spoon touch anyone's mouth, but I'm sure there's a toddler in there every once in a while that closes their mouth or moves. I've thought about that, but I don't know why it doesn't bother me so much. Desensitization?

Calypso1977

bel, the communion is given on a spoon?  is it a host or the blood? 

if i had to share a spoon with people, i probably wouldnt take it.  im so freaked by germs.  haha

IrishBrideND

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[QUOTE]The body and blood are combined in ours. I never know the right word for it. So obviously we and our guests got both. A question for those of you who do not take the blood: Would you take Communion in an eastern church? The priest is very careful about not letting the spoon touch anyone's mouth, but I'm sure there's a toddler in there every once in a while that closes their mouth or moves. I've thought about that, but I don't know why it doesn't bother me so much. Desensitization?
Posted by bel138[/QUOTE]

Toddlers get communion in the eastern church? Interesting.

No I probably wouldn't. And whats funny is I am FAR from a germaphobe. But this is one thing that bothers me.

AwayWeGo08

We will be taking both and offering both to our guests as well.

bel138

Yeah, it's given on a small golden spoon. Only the priest distributes it, so there's no EMs either. I always thought it was neat because the prayer the priest says while distributing is personalized so the priest at least knows the name of everyone in the parish. It's leavened too, so you really do have to chew it if you don't want to choke. You are given communion at the time of baptism. You are also chrismated (confirmed). So children of any age can be given communion, even if they are visiting a Roman parish. I believe it was done this way in the early Roman church as well, but don't hold me to that.

ootmother2

When I attend the 7:00 "Wayfarers" mass at one on the local churches, they use a very sweet type of Hungarian bread for communion.  I'm not crazy about the taste and usually try to go to another mass to avoid that.

Interesting about toddlers having communion.  I guess I can't think of any real reason why they shouldn't as they probably have the purist souls of any one of us.

lmeade62

We always take both...I'm not concerned about germs since it's the Blood of Christ. It's been a visceral part of the Eucharist for me since I entered the Church three years ago.

agapecarrie

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[QUOTE]We always take both...I'm not concerned about germs since it's the Blood of Christ. It's been a visceral part of the Eucharist for me since I entered the Church three years ago.
Posted by lmeade62[/QUOTE]

I think you mean "vital"

Remember, the substance of any germs (or theoretically poison) that would be present in the blood of Christ does not change, only the substance of the wine.

I've never heard of anyone getting sick from it, not that it could be traced...

but there is alcohol in the "wine" too

crystal8503

Thank you to the ladies that gave advice regarding the wheat in the body.  I spoke with my priest and he said we would only do the blood for myself.  I'm from a small area and it's near impossible to find good gluten-free food as it is and even harder to find people that know what I'm talking about in regards to GF foods.  So, I didn't have high expectations of receiving the body to begin with. 

Thank again!