Alternate Universe Wednesday

professorscience

I really loved the questions thread from last week, so I'm glad it's back.

How is everyone's Wednesday?  I am so excited, because H's cousin had her twins yesterday and everyone is (as far as I know) doing great!  One was slightly bigger than the other (but still only 4 pounds), but all seems to be well.

Hopefully Resa will come along and ask us some conversation-starting questions!

Ciardasully

Congrats Professor about the twins!

Today is a big day.  My parents are mailing out our wedding invitations today (My RSVP's already in are my parents and brother), my FI and I took our FOCUS inventory this morning and my co-workers threw me a surprise wedding shower. 

sarahdactyI

I just wanted to say that this whole "alternate universe" "deleted posts" things is really killing me... 

I am taking the bar exam in one week. I had really gotten used to taking periodic Knot studybreaks and reading things and now every time I give myself a break there's either nothing, or I take the time to write something and it gets eaten!

This is maybe God telling me to stop procrastinating and, you know, be productive.

But NEXT Wednesday, I'll be done with the bar exam, and life will be a bazillion times better.

This week has been pretty stressful for me but I keep hearing great news! Friend from HS is pregnant, cousin's baby is adorable and healthy, other cousin is getting married this Saturday... I already told the family (mostly just my mom) to please enjoy themselves but don't tell me how fun it is until after I finish. I wish I could go but it just isn't feasible to go to a party the weekend before the bar.

Womp womp, sorry for the negative vibe. I just miss my reliable Knot studybreaks!!!

erin5286

sarahdactyl - good luck on the bar!  I'm sure you're really looking forward to relaxing and enjoying the rest of your summer, study-free!

Resa77

I do have a question! But it's actually for advice, not convo. But maybe it will spark convo. I am not having kids at my wedding, other than those in the WP and babies. Someone RSVP'd with kids. Do I let her bring kids? Do I let her know we aren't really having kids? On one hand , I really don't mind if kids are around, I just didnt have room on the guest list for everyone's kids . On the other, I don't want her to show up and feel embarrassed when she realizes kids aren't there. I also don't want people who didn't bring their kids to be pissed that she was "allowed"to bring her kids. Thoughts??

erin5286

Hmm, that's a tough one.   

In our situation, we have a ton of kids on the guest list, since most of FI's cousins have several kids, and a majority of his friends have at least one.  The way we decided to handle it was that for family members, their invite would be to "So and So, and family" or "So and So, and kids' names" but coworkers (maybe some friends too, still deciding) would just be to "So and So" with no mention of kids or and family.  However, if any friends or co-workers do include kids on the RSVP, that's OK, since it's not that many more people.

If it were me, I'd probably just let ither bring the kids - but maybe give her a heads up that there weren't a lot of other kids invited or going to be there.  Maybe she'd be happy to have a "date night" out without the kids if she realizes it's more of an adult gathering (here I"m assuming she's married/in a relationship, so if that's not the case, disregard)

professorscience

I guess it's just something you're going to have to decide.  I mean, if you told other people they couldn't bring their kids, I don't like the idea of making an exception for this person.  I would just call her and say, "I'm sorry, but we're unable to accommodate children for x reason," and be ready for her to say she can't make it.

Resa77

Prof, that is sort of how I feel. I don't want some double standard. I mentioned to close friends that we're not inviting kids, and most of them said they wouldn't have brought theirs anyway. So it's not like I got a phone call asking if kids were welcome and I said no, but other people know it's supposed to be an adult event. The hardest part is she's a recent widow who has been having a tough time emotionally and financially. My mom didn't even ask my opinion; she just said "I'm not going to tell her that her kids can't come.". I guess I can blame my parents if friends complain...they're the hosts and are handling rsvps!