hello all (2nd go around)

MandiNewMommy

Okay so I am back!  Name is Mandi.  I am 30 and just had my first child.   I used the knot years ago when I married my late husband.  I am now planning my 2nd wedding...FI first. 

I am not as excited as I was to plan this one.  I already had my "dream" wedding and would love to just run away and get married but FI has never been married and wants all his friends and family to be there.  We have a little boy who is just over two months old and I def want him to be part of the wedding.  I don't want for my friends to feel like they have to be in and help with another wedding for me.   We haven't even set a date yet.  How do I get into it?  2nd timers what did you do?

dori851

I'm not a second timer, but I would suggest to invite friends & family, but maybe keep it on the smaller side! Also, a way to make your friends feel like they don't have to help is to not have them in the wedding party? You could have a very small wedding party or no wedding party at all if you want!

BTW, congratulations on the baby

spazticrexe

For her second wedding, my grandma (who is a very modern lady) went down to the courthouse with her closest friends and family for a JOP ceremony (I think she was actually friends with the judge who performed the ceremony too). I've seen some photos of it that are very nice so I think they had a photographer there as well. She wore a beautiful yellow lace dress. I don't know that this is at all your style, but its an option to consider!

Definitely go with something that reflects who you and your FI are as a couple and at this point in your lives.

newsgrl39

I am not on my 2nd wedding but my best friend was in the same situation you are... She invited only people she was super duper close to, family, etc.. and then let her now hubby, invite all the friends and fam he wanted. I think they still ended up having 250 people at the 2nd wedding... do whatever you feel comfortable with!

mrs.dilligaf

Hey!  So... when were you going to tell the other boards?  Congrats!

You can have a beautiful wedding without it being the big white wedding.  Have fun with it.  It's still an exciting and wonderful day, even though it has to be a little harder this time.  

FBM me if you need any help!

HarperBargo

I'm sorta a 2nd timer (previously engaged and then came to my senses that I was way too young and not happy). I wanted to elope as well but FI really wanted a wedding.

We are keeping the wedding party small (each of our siblings and our best friends for a grand total of only 4). The biggest thing that I have done differently is keeping organized and everything simple. No need to worry about every little detail and I keep everything about us. I also looked for wedding sites that we could do both ceremony and reception. Just PM if you need anything.

MandiNewMommy

Thanks girls!  Just a little to much thinking for me I guess..haha  I haven't really told anyone yet because we have no idea date or anything yet.  Just early talking stage.  Just making me have anxity already about all this.  I love him to death and do want spend the rest of my life with just want to skip this part...

I think the fact that I lost my first husband it is kind of hard..idk I am rambling so I am going to go now....lol