So, T's mother and father have been divorced for a while now and his mother is remarried. His mother has made some poor decisions that hurt T very deeply. Because of this he has had little contact with her for the past few years. However, after discussing it, we decided that she is his mother and should be at the wedding.
Fast forward to this morning. T's dad called to tell us that T's younger brother had called his mother to tell her that we were planning on getting married this summer. We were planning on calling her this weekend.
T and I feel very angry that he would have stepped over us like that. I am sure that he did not mean to cause any drama but that is what has happened. It was not for him to tell her. This is not his wedding. I think it was because he assumed we would have already called her about it. He doesn't seem to realize what a huge decision it was for T to invite his mother to the wedding.
I am at a loss as to what to do. I feel angry and want to give his brother a piece of my mind but I know that would not help anything. He really didn't know what he was doing.
I do feel a little better now that I have put my thoughts down. Hopefully we will figure out how to handle this.