NICE wedding gift???

gianfavl

Someone gave us a $25 check for our wedding, which bounced, and our bank charged us $15!! Can you believe that crap? UGH.

Future.Mrs.Shawty

OH NO!!!! How're you gonna write THAT thank you note....?

mrs.dilligaf

Have fun with that thank you note.  One of DHs friends brought a card (I was impressed with that, he's not the type) and put cash in it.  When we went to the bar afterwards, DH had to buy his drinks.  He had given us his last $32 in the card.  I thought it was sweet, the thought was there.  This one, not so much. 

HSchall

I feel your pain!  When I got married (the first time) we invited friends (a husband and wife) of my then fiance's parents to the wedding.  The parents added their grown son and his wife to the RSVP (who neither of us knew)--making the total expected guests--4 (two invited and two uninvited).  As it turned out, the parents never actually showed up at the wedding, just the uninvited son and his wife.  This cost us over $100 for the parents (our meal and drinks were $50+ pp) that never showed and over $100 for the uninvited guests.  To top it off, the uninvited guests gave us a check for $20 which bounced!  My bank charged us a $20 fee for the returned check and then for some reason tried to process it again.  We were then charged another $20 fee when the same check was returned again.  We ended up losing over $240 in the fiasco and never did collect on the $20 "gift" check!

stosha1

I have an idea for a Thank You note: Dear So-and-so: Thank you so much for coming to our wedding! It was wonderful seeing you there. I wish we could have spent more time chatting. I was thinking that if we had, I might have realized you were going to slip me a check that would bounce, so not only did I pay for your dinner and your time at our reception, I also paid for my gift! How cool is that!  I would say you were the best guest ever!In fact, I might submit your clever idea to the Knot, a website that collects the newest and greatest ideas on all things wedding!!! Thanks again!! Hope to see you soon!(insert your name here)Then I would draw a  picture of a hand holding up a middle finger.

weaveral

I understand your frustration, but seriously people--give the guest a break. You know that if someone doesn't have $25 in their account, they are harder up than you. You don't know what battles they face.

Future.Mrs.Shawty

Then they shouldn't have written an illegal check.

stosha1

Someone who was "harder up than you" and "facing battles" should have known to get a $0.40 greeting card from the Dollar Store and wrote a note inside saying "Congratulations" and let it be at that. Just because you go to a wedding doesn't mean you need to give a gift of money. They should definitely NOT have written a check that COST the bride and groom money.

jeremy.teresa

Yeah, I'm gonna have to agree w/ Erin and Carrie on this one.  They should have just bought a card that say Congrats and been done with it.  Its the thought that counts.  The fact that they wrote a check that bounced and the b&g had to pay a fee for is their fault.  If you don't have the money, don't write a checking knowing that.  Like Erin said, it IS illegal.

onlymels

Maybe they had another check go through all of a sudden when they wrote that check. They might have had 25 dollars in their account. I think it would be wierd to call and say can you wait to cash that check untill we get more money. They might have had a bill or something that came up more than they exppected.

gianfavl

Thanks for the great responses, but I must add, this person was NOT invited to the wedding. She is the grandmother of my niece and nephew (ring bearer and flower girl) (mother of my sister's deadbeat ex-husband) and she wanted to stop by to see them at the wedding ceremony. We were surprised she gave us a gift, unexpected. If we only knew...

lrtrauth

I say put the bounced check in with the thank you note and add a line at the end saying " Maybe you will have better luck at cashing this."

mjc468

This is probably gonna bite me in the rear, but at least you got a gift or a half attempt. I had people come who didn't give me anything, and I would have taken a card just to say congrats and I got nothing. Not to mention the one person said they were bringing someone (rsvp'd 2) and only 1 came to reception. So we paid for two and got no gift/card of congrats.

mjc468

I do want to say I don't think getting bounced checks for gifts are good either. I just meant I didn't even get a card from guests. So Vicki I didn't mean my situation was worse, just sucks in general people would do this to a married couple.