Let me preface by saying YES, I know weddings aren’t about getting gifts. But, let’s face it, wedding are expensive and you hope to make some of your money back in gifts. Fiance & I were having a conversation last night and trying to figure out on average how much per person we would hope to get to pay the remainder of our balance that is sitting my credit card. My parents gave us a big check after we got engaged for our wedding gift. We used this money gift to pay for a good half of the wedding, plus my parents bought my dress, shoes, and anything having to do with me. And my mom has been going out and picking up everything else (favors, welcome bags, décor, etc).
Fiances parents are divorced. His dad is single and did call my dad and offer to pay for the rehersal dinner. Since my parents are hosting it at their house and cooking, my dad didn’t feel comfortable with his dad paying for a party at their own house. My dad thanked him and said to put that money towards fiancé and I since we need it more. Other than that, his dad has not offered anything else. Fiance has 1 sibling, his sister who is also a bridesmaid. Her boyfriend is also invited and coming. We pretty much know that they won’t be giving us ANY sort of gift because she always complains about never having money. She is 24. We have a feeling she will ask her dad to just write her and her BF’s name on a card and act like whatever he gives us will be from them.
Also, his mom (who is remarried). He has not seen or talked to his mom in years due to her walking out on their family when he was a kid. He decided to invite her and try to begin some sort of a relationship. She has had some problems and is a little ‘loopy’ to put it nicely. She has already told him over the phone “I don’t have any money for a gift”.
OK, the above is the only family he has. Anyone else he has invited that is coming are friends. Am I in the wrong for being annoyed that people are prepping us for not being surprised that they aren’t bringing gifts…especially FAMILY?? I have no idea what his dad is giving us, but finace said he hasn’t been to a wedding in a long time and worries he will give us like $100. AND his dad gives his sister EVERYTHING. She totaled her car last month and ran to him and he bought her a new car.
