Help with the 'Parent's Dance'?

PokeMom

I'm in a bit of a bind. I'm getting married 07/03 and I STILL have not figured out what to do regarding the traditional Mother/Son, Father/Daughter dances. My father isn't in my life at all, so I was just going to dance with my mom and my FI would dance with FMIL. And that was that.
But middle of April, FI's mother passed away from an anuerism. So now it's just him and his father and me and my mother.
So what do I do now? I want to honor our parents some way, and I've always dreamed of doing that dance with my mom, but I highly doubt my FI and FFIL will want to dance together. And I don't want to exclude them.
Any suggestions?

l_everett

IDK but can you have you and your mother begin dancing and then half way thru the song have the men cut in and have FI dance with your mother and FFIL dance with you? That way you get to dance with your mother but eveyone is involved

bridetobe71412

l_everett has a great suggestion. Are you close enough to FFIL to do this? I bet it would mean a lot to him after what sounds like a hard couple of months.

PokeMom

Thanks for the suggestions.
I'm not very close with my FFIL, but that is a great way to incorporate both parents. Which means I'll also have to save some time for my stepdad (we don't get along AT ALL), because I don't want to hurt feelings.
My FI is a very socially awkward person, so I just hope he doesn't freak out at having to dance more, lol.

KatieK501

At first I was going to suggest not having the dance and trying to find another way to honor them, but I_everett's idea is really sweet.

I can't imagine losing my mom - ever - but I bet the wedding being so close makes it even harder.  I hope that your FI, FFIL and you are all doing okay with it.

I feel like I should never complain about FMIL again.

PokeMom

It has been really hard, KatieK501. She was a WONDERFUL woman. Her death was so sudden and unexpected. It's hit all of us really hard. We're doing a lot to remember her that day (candle, song...etc.) but it's a happy day so I wanted to honor the living as well.
Don't want to depress everyone.
And my mom would kill me if we just nixed the dance. She almost single-handedly raised me and my sisters, so she's been dreaming of that. O, and walking me down the aisle

BmoreBride311

I don't have any advice to add, but I just wanted to say I'm really sorry for your family's loss and I hope you guys stay strong!