Honeymoon Registry

ktwish

Hello Ladies!
My FI and I are thinking about doing a "Honeymoon Registry." We're pretty set on things for the home, but help with our honeymoon would be greatly apperciated.

Has anyone used or know of a good way to create a Honeymoon Registry? I've seen a few different webpages but I'm not sure how it all works.

Any insight into this would be great!

Kristin789

HM Registry is really not a good idea. 

Wedding guests expect to give wonderful, long-lasting gifts that mirror their hope for your marriage to be wonderful and long-lasting. Like china, bedding, and other nest-building stuff. When you see these gifts in your home, you will be reminded of the giver, and you will be reminded that you have a whole connected web of marriage mentors to whom you can turn for advice, counsel, new ideas or help when things go from better to worse.

A short-term donation to your honeymoon sexfest does not match what wedding gifts are supposed to represent.

M1ssJ

I haven't seen the site yet but a friend of mine is also doing this for their wedding and everyone who is close to hem already bought housewarming gifts when they recently purchased their house so this made more sense. She also has a minimal registry for china.  You could also just ask for monetary gifts in a tactful way which you could then use on your honeymoon.

Bre2Be

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-west-coast_honeymoon-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:62Discussion:4f5b1136-2557-4054-bc70-e1a7b3a8cb22Post:ccb528ce-c5e3-483a-8807-89d73549465c">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
[QUOTE]HM Registry is really not a good idea.  Wedding guests expect to give wonderful, long-lasting gifts that mirror their hope for your marriage to be wonderful and long-lasting. Like china, bedding, and other nest-building stuff. When you see these gifts in your home, you will be reminded of the giver, and you will be reminded that you have a whole connected web of marriage mentors to whom you can turn for advice, counsel, new ideas or help when things go from better to worse. A short-term donation to your honeymoon sexfest does not match what wedding gifts are supposed to represent.
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

<div>Kristin - I've read several of your posts recently and often times they come across as very <span class="unmark">snarky</span> and condescending.  I think your choice of words of "honeymoon <span class="unmark">sexfest</span>" is highly inappropriate.  The purpose of a honeymoon is to have a nice vacation away as newlyweds and to spend some quality time together as husband and wife after all the events of the wedding.  Granted we all know that this time typically involves physical intimacy, but that is certainly not the sole purpose of a honeymoon IMO.  When you go on vacation there are many expenses to consider such as flight, hotel, food, activities, etc.  Who's to say what wedding gifts are "SUPPOSED to represent"?  If that's something that is meaningful to them and their guests want to contribute then I think it's a great idea!</div><div>Besides, she didn't ask our opinion on whether or not we agree with it.  She simply asked for a good way to create one.  Hopefully, she can get some help here with what she was asking and less unprompted opinion polls.</div>

stargazerlily82479

We had two traditional registries, but found that a lot of our guests opted just to give us checks in cards at the wedding. Which ended up really coming in handy, our wedding was 6/12 and our honeymoon flight, scheduled for 6/14, ended up being cancelled the day before - we were supposed to fly with Spirit and then they went on strike. We had insurance on our AI resort but  not on the flight, and Spirit did refund the tickets but not immediately, so it did help being able to deposit those checks and not worry about our bank accounts while we were away since we had to get a last minute and rather expensive plane ticket last minute. I would just do a small traditional registry and have your parents and wedding party discretely tell people by word of mouth that monetary gifts might be better.

ufsweetiebear

I can't remember all of the sites off the top of my head (honeyfund.com comes to mind), but I do know a lot of brides decide against them because your guests are really just giving cash (even though it looks like they're buying you a massage, for example). It's up to you whether you'd like to use it for the intented purpose. Also, many of these sites take their "cut" from the overall pot so choose carefully. It's been discussed many times on Weddingbee so I'd search there for more info.

homecookin81

We were actually going to do a honeymoon registry initally, but we bought a house one month before the wedding (unexpectedly) so we went with a traditional registry instead.  I think they are a great idea! If you already have enough house/kitchen stuff, trust me, it will be nice to have some extra cash/gift cards to go towards your HM.
**In response to Kristin's rude post, she has been making snarky comments on this board literally for the past few years. I don't think she is a bride or soon to be bride.  She was told off several times by previous knotties, so she lurks until the next "cycle" of brides come on and then pops up again. I just block her so I can't see any of her posts. Cuts down on the drama.**

TTnoles

I think that for people you are inviting from our generation, they totally make sense.  I know generally older generations can be a little so-so on them because they want to give "tangible" gifts.  I say go for it though especially if you are set on gifts for them home.

mbathey

I agree with TTnotles.  I think the younger generation will go for it (my FI and I have often gotten our friends things off HM registries....since its cool and different) and the older generation will want to do something more traditional.  Maybe do one of both?  

 But do look into how the company runs it...if they are skimming money off the top of what have you.  I don't know much about that.  My FI thought about doing it (we recently bought a house but since our wedding isn't until next year, we have already purchased most of the things we need).  However our HM is going to be all inclusive and there are not many "add ons" to get so probably won't work out. 

Its your day....do what you want!

ktwish

Thank you ladies! I was shocked by the first response but everyone else has been great. We were thinking of doing 1 traditional registry (ask for some nice luggage maybe) and then 1 HM registry to help create the trip of a lifetime. We are an adventurous couple and would appreciate a little extra adventure in our honeymoon instead of a new sandwich press!
Its good to know that some sites charge a fee, I just have to figure out which one(s) don't.

As for the "honeymoon sexfest"... I'd rather think of Aunt Martha's gift as we are on safari in South Africa instead of new sheets on the bed! (had to get that off my chest)

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