AHH! Babysitter help needed!

NicoleEOle13

Oi vey I have a cousin who lives in GA with her husband, 2 boys (1 has down syndrome) and a little girl. I honestly didn't think they'd come to our wedding, what with it being on a Sunday, the kids having school, and well...kids just not being invited making it perpetually impossible....

Well of course she writes me excitedly 20 minutes ago saying "Yay! We are coming! I made sure to work our schedules around, and since the kids have never missed a school day it's no big deal."

that's what I get I guess for thinking I wouldn't have any issues with not inviting kids.

I then had to tell her (nicely) that kids weren't actually invited, which was easily the most awkward thing I think I've ever done....BUT, she was super understanding and said she understands considering she and the hubby could use a night to just cut loose.

So, now I have to try and find a babysitter, but most importantly one who could watch the kids right near our wedding. Do you ladies know how I can go about finding a babysitter that would maybe just watch the kids for 5-6 hours at our hotel (where the rooms are blocked)? Is that normal or pretty weird? Also, do any of you personally know a good sitter?

JulieNFlo

Oh WOW I feel your pain.  I actually hired a sitter for the weekend but she is only staying with my 2 girls.  Of course my kids will participate in the ceremony but as far as the reception and stuff like that they will only be there for the dinner and toast.  The person I am using was referred to me by my hair dresser that I have been going to for years so I really trust their judgement.

I would suggest to maybe speak with friends or co-workers first to see if they have someone the could recommend.  It may help you feel a little more comfortable coming from someone that is close and knows you.

GOOD LUCK!!!!

Roltide75

lots of special ed teachers will babysit special needs kids

do you have a teacher friend that might know some young ESE (special education teachers) and if the price is right, I'm sure they could provide recommendations and you will be just fine

aallenba

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[QUOTE]that's what I get I guess for thinking I wouldn't have any issues with not inviting kids. Posted by NicoleEOle13[/QUOTE]

I cannot recommend any babysitters....however..

How exactly did you not invite kids. Did you put something on the invite indicating no kids or did you list the # of people invited on the RSVP date (i.e.: "we have reserved 2 seats in your honor")

I don't think it's your duty to find a babysitter unless you didn't imply no kids in your invite/rsvps

NicoleEOle13

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[QUOTE]Oh WOW I feel your pain.  I actually hired a sitter for the weekend but she is only staying with my 2 girls.  Of course my kids will participate in the ceremony but as far as the reception and stuff like that they will only be there for the dinner and toast.  The person I am using was referred to me by my hair dresser that I have been going to for years so I really trust their judgement. I would suggest to maybe speak with friends or co-workers first to see if they have someone the could recommend.  It may help you feel a little more comfortable coming from someone that is close and knows you. GOOD LUCK!!!!
Posted by JulieNFlo[/QUOTE]Good idea. I work with a few single moms. I will start asking tomorrow who they use to babysit.

Can I ask how much  (or ballpark) what you are paying to have the sitter for the weekend?

NicoleEOle13

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[QUOTE]lots of special ed teachers will babysit special needs kids do you have a teacher friend that might know some young ESE (special education teachers) and if the price is right, I'm sure they could provide recommendations and you will be just fine
Posted by Roltide75[/QUOTE]
Fantastic idea! My sister has an Autistic son in a special school, so maybe I can see if any of the teachers would be game, or if they know of anyone <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

NicoleEOle13

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[QUOTE]In Response to AHH! Babysitter help needed! : I cannot recommend any babysitters....however.. How exactly did you not invite kids. Did you put something on the invite indicating no kids or did you list the # of people invited on the RSVP date (i.e.: "we have reserved 2 seats in your honor") I don't think it's your duty to find a babysitter unless you didn't imply no kids in your invite/rsvps
Posted by aallenba[/QUOTE]
Hah, no, I was just blindly optimistic that if we really only put the parents names on the invite they'd get the idea. Stupid? Yes, but it's fine because we only have a few relatives with small children anyway, and she's the only one that didn't figure it out. Either way, now she's thanking <em>me </em>for giving them an excuse to come down and then have a great time with the many family members they haven't seen in a long time <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

Just need to find someone who could maybe watch the kids in the hotel now.

stargazerlily82479

I actually am a behavior analyst and I run a clinic for children with autism and developmental disabilities. One of my behavior therapists recently left to pursue graduate school, but I've referred a few clients to her for babysitting. If you are still looking, email me at jgranatino at yahoo dot com and I can send you her contact info. She's an absolute sweetheart, really great with kids, and we background check all our employees.

kellyw09

You may also want to check with your hotel as they may know of businesses that provide babysitting services.

Roltide75

Hah, no, I was just blindly optimistic that if we really only put the parents names on the invite they'd get the idea. Stupid? 

^^^^^^^^^^

NOW that is another BAG OF WORMS....

daughter put the parents name on the inside envelope such as 

John and Susie Smith

And yesterday we got back 8 extra heads.....venue won't accomodate, so we are going to have to call and uninvite those who weren't invited in the first place.  We are having "some" kids~ but they are close family who are "wanted" at the wedding.  For a family to return 5, is just ridiculous at a plated dinner and the bride and groom don't even KNOW their kids.  I'm embarrassed for them and calling them is just a pain.  

Several ESE aides at my school babysit.  I think your sister will be able to help you out !

moonstone523

Get this yall... we didn't invite kids either, and we got back one invite with the plus one baby on it.  Um... what were yall thinking?!?  So we got them a babysitter, they were grateful.  the kids could come to the RD, just not the wedding.

Anyways, so my cousin has a 2 yr old, and we offered the same babysitter to them.  The sitter is my dad's employee... great girl, used to work at a day care, etc.

Anwyays, my cousin said no theyw ill just go back and forth to the hotel.  Then during the wedding my mom and dad find out they have the kid in the car and are going back and forth to the Car.  HOW WEIRD IS THAT!  My dad is like, bring the kid in the wedding!  You can't keep her in the car!  But they said, 'no you didn't want kids here so we will respect that.'

Totally weird.  kid in the car.  parent or g-parent going back and forth.  weird.

JulieNFlo

I paid $200 for the weekend but I also paid for her hotel stay for the weekend as well as meals for the weekend. 

NicoleEOle13

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[QUOTE]You may also want to check with your hotel as they may know of businesses that provide babysitting services.
Posted by kellyw09[/QUOTE]
Excellent idea!

NicoleEOle13

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[QUOTE]Get this yall... we didn't invite kids either, and we got back one invite with the plus one baby on it.  Um... what were yall thinking?!?  So we got them a babysitter, they were grateful.  the kids could come to the RD, just not the wedding. Anyways, so my cousin has a 2 yr old, and we offered the same babysitter to them.  The sitter is my dad's employee... great girl, used to work at a day care, etc. Anwyays, my cousin said no theyw ill just go back and forth to the hotel.  Then during the wedding my mom and dad find out they have the kid in the car and are going back and forth to the Car.  HOW WEIRD IS THAT!  My dad is like, bring the kid in the wedding!  You can't keep her in the car!  But they said, 'no you didn't want kids here so we will respect that.' Totally weird.  kid in the car.  parent or g-parent going back and forth.  weird.
Posted by moonstone523[/QUOTE]<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-surprised.gif" border="0" alt="Surprised" title="Surprised" /> that is HORRIBLE!