Walking down the aisle...

Bre2Be

OK, so last weekend FI and I went to the tasting at Delectables and my mom, her FI, and my dad also came.  (lil' background: Although my paretns are divorced, they get along great.  They talk all the time and my mom has even started going to church at my dad's church.)

The 5 of us were all sitting there during the tasting and my mom asks me who is walking me down the aisle.  (Well, let's see...I've been a daddy's girl since the day I was born and I've been living with my dad for the past 2 years.)  So, I was kinda shocked especially since my dad was sitting right there.  I'm sure I had a crazy look on my face and I told her of course, my DAD! 

She then proceeds to yell me that she's been watching all these wedding shows on TV and that it's very popular to have both your mom and dad walk you down the aisle.  Yes, I've heard of this and seen it, but that really never even crossed my mind.  Now, I feel like I'm in an awkward situation if I tell her I only want my dad to walk with me.  So, my questions are:

1) Can I politely tell her I only want my dad to give me away? HOW? 
2)  If she doesn't walk with me, who is supposed to escort her?  Her FI?

Thanks ladies!

jen812

I think you answered your own question.  Yes, have your dad walk you down the aisle.  You can tell her you want to stick with tradition here.  Your mom's FI can walk her down the aisle.  That would be nice.  At my wedding, the best man walked my mom down the aisle, because my dad was w/ me.  Sorry you were in such an awkward situation.  I hope when you tell your mom she understands.

ufsweetiebear

I agree with pp. I'm sure she'll understand. I'm having my brothers (they're not groomsmen) walk my mom down.

TTnoles

I agree with PP too.  You can have her FI escort her or if you have any brothers.  Or she can walk alone.  GL

JulieNFlo

I also agree with pp.  I know that she will understand.  Our son is walking me down the isle.  I thought that would be a nice touch to have him walk with me and then after we are remarried he will walk with our daughters (his 2 younger sisters)

wendyjoy182

I agree with the above.  It's you and your FI's day so do what YOU guys want.  Remember, it's about you two no one else.  She will come around.  I'd say it's mopre common place for just a dad than both.  Maybe spent some special wedding time with her soon- dress fitting just you two or invite mailing or something so she still feels like a part of it.  She may feel left out since you have been living with your dad.  All in all it'll all work out- she just loves you and wants to feel like a part of it I bet. Good Luck.

lprouten

Agree with all PP. Tell her its the way you have always imagined it.

Kristin789

The MOB has responsibilities before the wedding, and then the MOB is the last person seated before the procession begins.  She gets seated, and that's the organist's cue to change the music from prelude to processional.   Then after MOH passes the MOB, the MOB stands.  That's the organist's cue to change the music from processional to bride's entrance.

Bottom line:  Your mother already HAS stuff to do to coordinate the start of the wedding.  She really isn't supposed to be standing in the back with you - unless your family is jewish.  Maybe your mother is unfamiliar with these responsibilities...?